- 10 years ago
- Wedding: June 2004
I found this web site and I thought maybe you will be able to help me as I don’t know what to do and feel very sad.I’m Spanish and went to like in UK as my husband is english.I love here,i have a good job and step by step I managed to have a few friends, I love my house .
The big huge problem is my husband ‘s family.Since I ‘ve arrived in UK they started using me as a carer for their old mother and as a waitress and a cook.Every Christmas I like to go back to my family in Spain and my husband is always very welcome if he wants to join us.I can’t stay in Uk and not spend Christams with my parents especially my mum who has cancer and will not live more than 4/5 years the doctors say.
My husband see his mum EVERY SINGLE WEEK,sometimes even twice per week,she rings at least twice per week,they spend together all her birthdays and all mothers day while since I’m here I haven’t spend ONE birthday or mother ‘sday together with my mum.My husband and his mum meet for every single silly little family occasion.We live only 10 miles from my mother in law and my husband pretends me to stay here in UK because he wants to saty with his mum who is 85.I understand his point of view so I said he can stay in Uk but I want to go and see my mum especially because I don’t know how many CHristmas togetehr we have left.We haven’t got children so it would be easier to spend Christamas sepratly.
I cook for my mother in law,she comes here when she wants ,she says all sort s of nasty things about me and he pretends I stay here with him and her??????My husband has a sister who lives near us and so his mum would not be alone,she would stay with her daughter and a lot of grandchildren.My husband also has a brother but his brother NEVER spends Christams with his mum becuase they live 3 hours from here and he wantsto stay with his wife.Do you think I ask too much ?I see my mum every 3-4 months and only recently I started to go and visit her every 2 months because she spent long times in hospital.
So my husbadn said ; that is to say that till when your mum will not die we have to spend Christmas in Spain?BUT I told him : he can stay here I’m not asking him to come with me.And even when my mum will die I will never leave my dad and brother alone.I don’t know if it’s me pretending too much or just my husband being selfish!!!!
Please help me to understand!!!!