(Closed) My husband was invited to wedding…but not me!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Whoaaa, that’s crazy rude. 

I’d decline as well. 

Post # 4
Member
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’d decline! Everybody knows that if one of your guests is married or engaged you invite the significant other. This lady is being rude and mean. Not somebody I’d want to be friends with, that’s for sure.

Post # 5
Member
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

DECLINE DECLINE DECLINE. You don’t need crazy drama queens like that in your life. Someone’s wife trumps someone’s girlfriend every time. It’s something called consideration for your guests.

Post # 6
Member
16 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would definitely decline.  You are lucky to have a husband that stand by you.

Post # 7
Member
1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

OMG That is so rude.  I dont think that it is unreasonable that you decline the invitation.  Maybe her Fiance will make things right.

Post # 8
Member
1154 posts
Bumble bee

Decline

Post # 9
Member
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

De-cline.  Wtf?  I too am feeling the wedding-guest-list pains, and anyone that is in a “serious” relationship (or married, duh), gets to bring a guest.  As a result, there are some friends that I am not inviting because I can’t start to have my list spiral out of contol.  This woman is not someone that I would want to be friends with….clearly she has some other issues, and you needn’t be a part of it.  If she invited your husband, you should be invited as well.  Period. 

Post # 10
Member
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

DECLINE DUH! This girl obviously has issues. i cant even comprehend what she is doing 0-0;;

Post # 11
Member
1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

and I would put her on my “restricted” facebook list… B****

Post # 12
Member
555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

ummm yeah . . . decline and Delete!! wow super rude . . .

Post # 13
Member
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

That happened to us too. We aren’t married yet, but have been together for 9 1/2 years. Needless to say, my Fiance didn’t have any problem declining the invitation. It would def not be rude of you to decline.

Post # 14
Member
13 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Decline!  She’s being EXTREMELY rude!

Post # 15
Member
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

That’s incredibly rude. I agree that she gets to have whomever she wants on her guest list, but it still calls for some sensitivity. I kept tons of people off my guest list but had clear categorical rules “No one whom I’ve not spoken to in 3 years,” “No ‘and guests’ or gf/bf unless the invitee is cohabitating,” etc. Then I enforced those rules pretty uniformly. I say DECLINE!

Post # 16
Member
1566 posts
Bumble bee

Yeah, that is not ok. No +1’s at all for a small wedding is ok, but asking someone’s Gf of 3 months and not another dude’s wife? That is so rude. 

I would decline. Also, since she seems to twist your husband’s words and attack him when he calls, I would write an email. Just to make it clear that it’s not an issue of him not going anywhere without you, but that it is rude to treat guests like that. I would also include a link to this thread 🙂 

The topic ‘My husband was invited to wedding…but not me!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors