(Closed) My husband was invited to wedding…but not me!

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

She is definitely in the wrong here, and needs some serious etiquette lessons (in both wedding etiquette and manners in general)!

I’m glad that your husband has told her he’s declining the invitation. What an odd situation.

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

….and I just read your update above. I love that your husband said to her, “when you’re married, you’ll understand.” Maybe then she’ll see how rude it is to invite a married guest and not their spouse!

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

wth?!  i dont even have words for this one, except i was just about to post “she will soon understand b/c she’s about to be married herself” but i saw that your husband told her that, i’m glad, she needs to think about that.  ugh whatever, ya’ll are missing out on a lot of drama but not going so good for you!

Post # 50
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248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That’s so rude.  It’s not that he can’t go w/o you – I’ve gone to several w/o my Fiance when he couldn’t get away from work and they were my friends, but he was always invited!  I guess it depends on how close he is to her, if he wants to support her despite her rudeness.  I don’t think it should be a stand on principle, rather if he’s too disgusted to go he should decline. 

Post # 51
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

you are being so classy about a situation where you are 100% in the right.  i have a friend who pulls this kind of thing with my partner b/c she “only wants the people she truly loves” around her on special occasions…like sat night birthday parties in clubs.  i thought she’d “get it” when she got married but your husband’s friend’s wife shows that crassness knows no bounds.

for the record, it’s probably not personal, she’s probably just rude and wasn’t taught that you dont’ disrespect the institution you are in the process of entering.

Post # 52
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1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

such a rude girl! I cannot belive that there was no one around when she did this to tell her that she f-ed up. Glad you and the Darling Husband are presenting a united “you are runde, youll understand when you are married” front.

Post # 53
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I would also decline– especially after your husband contacted her and expressed his feelings and how he wanted to bring you along.  and you said it best– she has the option to invite who she wants– but you have the option to decline if you choose so. 

Post # 54
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Bumble Beekeeper

oh man, the mean part of me thinks you should talk to the mutual friend and go as his ‘and guest’ (assuming his gf would be cool with that) and the three of you can go together. Show her!

Yeah, but that would just mean lots of awkwardness. I’m sorry that this woman is so off her rocker! Her apology should have included at LEAST an “as soon as we get our first RSVP ‘no’ back, I’ll reserve a spot for [you]”, if not an immediate invite.

Glad to hear your hubs is standing up for you and not putting up with her craziness.

Post # 55
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6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think she actually fits the definition of a real Bridezilla!! This is so totally rude, there is no justifying her actions. It’s one thing to not invite you to keep a very small guest list, but quite another to give your husband attitude about it. And it’s a huge no-no not to invite a spouse to begin with, no matter how small your list. I would be very offended too if I found out another friend was invited with his girlfriend.

No need to not be friends with her anymore, but definitely decline the invitation. I wouldn’t even send a gift either, I doubt you will get any kind of thank you from this horrid woman.

Post # 56
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Newbee

I would DECLINE!!! Where’s the respect!  Obviously they don’t care about how you both feel so I woulden’t care to attend!!!!  You are married….RESPECT!

Post # 57
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

WOW. DECLINE & DELETE from FB! If you had never met the woman then I can kind of see if they were on a small budget but she has met you, facebooked you, AND attended YOUR wedding…WITH a recent boyfriend. I think this girl obviously has some sort of hard feelings for you…maybe a crush on your husband? There is something more going on, since she did not invite you but another friend can bring a date?! That is without a doubt the rudest thing ever. I’m glad your husband is standing by you and not going. The friend will regret it when he’s not there because she’s an idiot.

Post # 58
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6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow I can not even believe this girl – Happily Decline!

Post # 59
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175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That is incredibly rude– I would definitely DECLINE.

She does not deserve your (or your husband’s) time, money, and friendship.

Post # 60
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987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I would probably try to decline and write F- you on the RSVP card until someone convinced me that that would be classless.  Seriously, that is completely ridiculous and uncalled for.  No one understands the challenge of the guest list better than other brides but in this situation the bride is being a real jerk which is never ok.

Post # 61
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Helper bee

She wanted the guys to go together??

She sounds like one of those girls who needs to be surrounded by guys all the time.  My husband’s brother usually dates these kind of women.  In fact the one he’s with right now wants to buy my husband a plane ticket to fly him across the US to spend his brother’s birthday with them…but I wasn’t included. 

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