(Closed) My husband was invited to wedding…but not me!

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 107
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

oh.my.god. That’s all I can say. And yeah, I agree, it wouldn’t matter if the genders were reversed. It’s just plain rude no matter what.

Honestly, it sounds like your lives are much better without her anyway. I feel bad for her groom.

Post # 108
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67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This girl clearly has a problem with you and some people are just downright rude. This is inexcusable and your husband should decline. Considering she’s asking for a present from the both of your is technically incorrect. Wedding gifts are only given by those who are invited to the wedding. So you are off the hook, however your husband is not. Honestly if I were in your shoes, I’m not sure if I would want my husband to continue being her “friend”. Now I’m not saying you control what he does or doesn’t do, but I would hope that he is just as offended by her gesture of not including you as you are. And ignore her Facebook comments… that stuff is for teenagers. Just block her from showing up in your news feed and she will get the hint that you aren’t playing that game.

Good luck! *hug*

Post # 109
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5385 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

That is really rude! I would send her 2 pennies, 1 from your hubby and 1 from you.

I would’ve sent one penny, but since she insists that a married couple should send more…

Post # 110
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2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Wow, this post has been absolutely captivating! I am flabbergasted by the insecurity and insensitivity of this other bride.  To me it seems like she is jealous of you – why wouldn’t she be, you have a kick-ass husband who stands by your side no matter what!

I’d say forget her big time, you’re much classier than she. 

Post # 111
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m sorry but I think this girl just lost two friends.  I agree with declining from your husband’s standpoint especially after learning that the other friend could bring his gf and then even more so after the money comment. 

If the tables were turned, I would be upset if my Fiance wasn’t invited to a wedding but like you would intially understand why. But if things progressed like they have with this girl then I would decline too. 

Hmm… I think I’d have to reply on FB then why are you getting married if marriage is such an awful thing?

Post # 112
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5385 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I wouldn’t attend a wedding if they didn’t invite my FH. Her statement seems hypocritcial because she is getting married, yet she doesn’t understand why she has to invite a spouse to a wedding.

 

Post # 113
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@truegem…I am in here falling out with laughter about your “two pennies” comment….LOL.

Post # 114
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178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

That is crazy rude!  Especially since you know she’s inviting someone else with a plus one.  As a bride I wanted to make sure any guest with a significant girlfriend or boyfriend let alone their spouse!  That girl just has problems and I don’t think I’d want to attend a wedding when… well, if it was a friend of my Fiance marrying a witch like that I wouldn’t think it’d last.  Hopefully your husband will hold his ground, even if that means not attending.  The only way I could see not inviting a spouse is if you were having a super small wedding but even then it’s rude.

Post # 115
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 2011

So glad your husband declined. That girl was so rude. I was in the same situation.  Bride left me out of the wedding invitation intentionally.  She only invited my boyfriend of 5 years (back then).   They never gave us a real explanation as to why I was never invited. I thought we were good friends, but I guess not!  My boyfriend declined the invitation and we’ve never looked back.

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