(Closed) My husband's bad hygiene is driving me away – Divorce, Seperate, or Endure?

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Would you stay or Divorce?

    Stay- work on it, try to endure and hope for change

    Divorce- Got to get out!

  • Post # 151
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    Bumble bee

    Poop?  How does he leave poop in different places?  I don’t get that part, and besides that’s totally grosssss. 

    Just that would send me packing and running. Best of luck your a better woman than all of us. Yuck.

     

    Post # 152
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    Helper bee

    Omg this almost made me puke, and I am usually great with poop/vomit/blood/etc. Get away, this is disgusting. Poop on the walls? Seriously? I have had kindergarteners with mental disorders do that. How can he leave it there for you?! Ahhh.it is one thing to flush and have it not all go down, but poop in strange places? Aaahh

    Post # 153
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I know most bees don’t advocate for ultimatums bc they usually end badly but it looks like an ultimatum may be your only option at this point. He refuses to see a Dr and is literally infecting you because of his habits. You have to draw your line in the sand and stand your ground. I’d do a trial separation with the condition that he attends all appointments (medical Dr, nutritionist & psychiatrist) and gets all necessary testing. If he refuses then I’d walk away, at least knowing that I tried my best and gave support.

    Post # 154
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    Honey Beekeeper

    It’s ironic that with all of this, there’s been little mention of the um, interactive porn habit.  A lot of women would consider this to be a deal breaker all by itself, even  consistent with  emotional cheating. OP has made it clear that it’s not  OK with her, and that it is going on at the expense of the relationship. 

    The fact that it seems to be the least of her problems is pretty sad. 

    Post # 155
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

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    weddingmaven:  I think people are having issues getting past the poop! Haha, I’m still baffled/don’t understand how that happens either. But I do agree… there are lots of issues.

    Post # 156
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

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    Daisy_Mae:  “the diseases could be prevented by condoms.” — So you think it’s more reasonable for her to have to wear hazmat gear than for him to wash the mushrooms off his dick?”

    BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA. I know this isn’t a comical post but omg, I just died laughing.

    Post # 157
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

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    weddingmaven:  Yes, I think none of us could make it past the poop part.

    Post # 158
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    Sugar bee

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    Daisy_Mae:  I need this on a t-shirt ASAP – “Vaginosis for Jesus”

    Post # 159
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    Bumble bee

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    juliaGG:  100% agree. 

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    weddingmaven:  I didn’t even register that part, I was too overwhelmed by the time I made it there. Way too many other bad things going on.

    Post # 161
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    What kind of life is that? Can you imagine wht the next five years is like? I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this, but at the same time I feel really upset and angry for you! You deserve a life! It sounds like you are living with very difficult conditions. My parent’s friend actually married a very overweight man who didn’t go out or do much, and ended up divorcing him and finding a great and active guy who wanted to LIVE. Best of luck. 

    Post # 162
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

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    buzzinbee:  comment of the year!

    Post # 163
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    Honey bee

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    SUNSHINE200:  Are you with this guy because you love him or because you are a good person and you’re trying to do him a solid? From your responses it really sounds like you feel bad for him, always have, and you are trying to stay with him at the sacrifice of your own life and happiness. Also, do you realize what those diseases he is giving you can do to you? It’s not just an antibiotic here and there and you’re good, they can cause infertility and all sorts of internal breakdowns. You owe it to yourself to be in a better situation.

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    Daisy_Mae:  *slow clap*. I am literally in tears over your comments. Bravo. 

     

     

    Post # 164
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    anonladygrace: You’re actually calling other people ‘crack ups’? That’s rich.  How in the fuck is OP not in harms way when she gets infections after having sex with her filthy husband?

    He’s literally growing funghi all over his body and you chime in with that crock of shit advice? Pray on your own marriage, some people are looking for real, practical advice.. Not passive bs like you’re spewing.

    A mental illness is one thing but, a mental illness that someone is completely unwilling to seek help for is quite another.. Any reasonable person can see that but, something tells me you don’t fall into that category.

    Post # 165
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    Busy bee

    Awful. Have you googled “Scatophilia” or even “Encopresis” It may apply to this situation.

    His actions are a behavioral based…  I know this may sound extreme – But does Schizophrenia run in his family?

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