- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Yes, I can’t believe I am saying this, but it’s true.
My husband’s best friend in the whole world of 7yrs, his best man and vice versa, is cheating on his pregnant wife.
Not only is she pregnant, but they have another daughter together (both of whom were conceived because he desperately wanted children with his wife). She has got to be the sweetest, most incredible wife and woman I have ever met, and unfortunately I am just starting to bond with her and get to know her on a deeper level as I comfort her through this difficult time. She loved this man with all of her heart &, up until just a few days ago, we all thought the feeling was mutual between them.
They got married when they were 18; however, they were both extremely grounded and mature people who seemed deeply in love. Ultimately, their to decision to wed was expedited due to the fact that he was to be deported to Mexico ASAP unless they got married. (The back story on that is that his aunt took him to the US when he was 3yrs old without a green card, and he didn’t find out that he was considered a United States Alien, or that his aunt wasn’t his real birth mother, until he was 17yrs old). He began dating his wife when they were 16, and when he proposed he still hadn’t found out about his impending deportation. It ended up that they wedded and she got purposefully pregnant about 7 months later, but then his deportation papers came anyway. Her parents supported him emotionally and financially the whole time he was in Mexico while their daughter was pregnant, and he ended up returning home just 3 days before his baby was born. Then 2yrs later, just 3 months mine and my husband’s wedding, his wife got pregnant for the second time after a month of trying.
Longest story ever made somewhat short, we just found out that he is cheating on her. They were going through a rough patch because he wasn’t sure that he was “in love” with her anymore, and he broke this to her by also telling her that he was seeing somebody else for two weeks. He actually had the audacity to tell her that he was leaving her for this other woman, and that she (his wife) should refrain from touching him because his “girlfriend” might get jealous. He also physically forced her to text his mistress the lie that they were in the process of a divorce and it would be finalized in a week (totally untrue). His wife is absolutely broken hearted, and instead of seeking vengence, she is begging him to come back to her and their children because she is so in love with him with.
My heart absolutely aches for her. Today I drove almost an hour to be with her and hold her while she cried for hours.. I had to literally beg her to eat the lunch I bought her because she hadn’t eaten for a week, and then tonight I had to beg her to go to sleep. The only reasoning that she will listen to is that her baby’s life depends on her well-being.
I just don’t know what to do, or what to say. I can’t believe that my husband is losing his best friend, and that his best friend is doing this to his kind and innocent wife. I swear, we used to look up to this man and how he supported his family, and now he has literally turned into a monster. It’s like we don’t even know who he is anymore. I am broken hearted that this can even be possible, and all I want to do is relieve the pain that has been left in his wake.
I just had to get this off my chest, and any advice, words of encouragement, or sympathy would be appreciated (more than I can explain, actually).