- 3 months ago
- Wedding: October 2014
definitely going anon for this one. Little bit of a back story. Recently D.H. and I had a rough night with our newborn D.H. decided to be the one to stay up late with him till he finally went down which wasnt till almost 3am, i decided to go to bed early so that i could be the one to deal with his fussiness in the early am (usually around 6am), i got him down again around 5am went back to bed and must have blacked out, cause D.H. was up again at 8am dealing with him. Now this has kinda been the norm since we came home from the hospital, hes still in the newborn stage so he kinda sleeps in spurts. D.H. and I have never had an issue with it, except were both just tired and cranky some days, it happens. Some nights i get more sleep and some nights D.H. gets more sleep.
Heres where im pretty upset D.H. tends to tell his parents EVERYTHING, hes close with them, which is fine. But over the years ive always expressed concern with just how much he shares with his parents (some things i just think need to be left between us personally) he doesnt seem to see the problem with it, and his parents have never judged him or I over anything. Until now.
D.H. vented to his mother in the morning how he had a rough night, sure enough an hour later Mother-In-Law stopped by on her way to work, i was just rolling out of bed and hopping in the shower. I dont know what was said between them at that point, but then dear Mother-In-Law went home and must have told Father-In-Law that i wasnt helping out enough, etc. etc
Sure enough later that afternoon my Father-In-Law phoned D.H. with his concerns and how i should do more and blah blah blah. D.H. was pissed and did stick up for me. But OF COURSE D.H. told me everything, i was pretty pissed as this is why i dont think his parents need to know every grimmy detail of our marriage, and now both my In laws seem to think im a lazy parent.
i wont lie im upset, i know i pull my weight when it comes to raising our kid and so does D.H. but i cant be fake around people to save my life, now knowing how my in laws really feel i truly just dont want to be around them or play nice at the moment.
i do know that people LOVE to give their unsolicited parenting advice, but it coming from my inlaws just stings a little more, especially since its only been 4 ish weeks since ive given birth.
I just needed to vent bees, How do i get over this bump in the road?