(Closed) My invites are going to be …. (I have to say it) Tacky! :(

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Don’t worry about it – that’s not tacky!

It’s considered bad etiquette to have the registry info directly on the invite, but it’s perfectly acceptable to have it on the accomodations card.  That’s disappointing that she didn’t include the website that you wanted, but I wouldn’t worry about reactions from any of your guests!

Post # 4
683 posts
Busy bee

If it helps, I’ve seen it included in many invitation packets- not on the invitation itself- and frankly I don’t even think one way or the other about it anymore. I also think in th 90’s- the practice of putting a registry card in the invitation suite- I remember Macy’s offered this- was considered a convenience to guests….

Post # 5
829 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010


Post # 6
4024 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Don’t be bummed at all. Even though its a “no-no”, we are doing it too! And we just got an invite in the mail with it done also. Most of my family isn’t going to go to our website, and truthfully, it was nice to have it in front of me on the invite so I didn’t have to track down their’s!

Post # 7
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think that your invitations will be fine. Your registry information is not directly on the invite, so I do think it will be okay. The only time that I am put off by an ivitation is when the registry information is directly on the invite. I would not be put off by it being on the accomodation card.

Post # 8
2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Yeah, don’t worry about it.  It may not be the preferred way to do things but no one is going to think badly of you for it.  We’ve probably all seen things we consider worse.  😉

Post # 10
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

There are bigger things to worry about. Don’t let this little thing bother you.

Post # 11
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I always thought the no-no was the registry info on the invite itself. I will probably enclose a card that has the info on it too. I know my guests would rather just know than track the info down.

Post # 12
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Honey you are fine! We are not doing this, but every single wedding invitation I have gotten has had the registry information somewhere on it.  I think it is a regional thing.  I have never thought anything of it.

We registered for a $500 vaccuum, and were told by Future Mother-In-Law that some guests would think it was tacky.  I told her to let me know their names, and I would go ahead and cross them off the guest list. LOL.

Post # 13
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We just got an invite to a wedding with the registry on it. I think lots of people do it

Post # 14
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I think since the invite is obviously from your parents it is different as well. The reason it is considered tacky is it makes it seem like you are saying “come to my wedding and bring me a GIFT” if it is on the invite. This way it is more like your mom providing info, just like it is not tacky to list on a shower invite!

Post # 15
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you’re fine. My mom was mad because I didn’t include it!

Post # 16
546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

we just put “registry on request from Stephanie Rudge” (my mum) because we haven’t done a proper one we’ve done a list of stuff we need for the house.

if people wanted the list then they can ask my Mum  – it would be awkward if they asked us so it’s my Mum instead – but they don’t feel like they have to buy us a present!

(and yes we have sent our invites out early  – but in Britain we don’t really do “save the date” things!)

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