(Closed) My J&J got canceled and nobody told me.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1130 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

First, let me say that I’m sorry you’ve been jerked around, that’s really disappointing to get so excited and book days off and then have it fall to pieces. Lame.

That being said, the wedding is the celebration of the marriage. There’s no real required celebration of the wedding. It’s nice when people do these things, but unfortunately they’ve come to be expected. You should never count on anyone but yourself for income for your wedding, because things often fall through for various reasons and it’s really no one’s responsibility but you and your fiance’s. No one is going to be as excited about your wedding as you, nor should they be. People have their own lives and yeah, we want other people to join in the celebration but sometimes life has different plans.

Maybe you could do a low key girls night with your friends as an alternative to a traditional bachelorette?

Post # 4
2783 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well, since your friends all have next Friday off, why don’t you plan a girl’s night then?

Post # 5
495 posts
Helper bee

First, I’m sorry you’re dealing with this disappointment. Second, can’t you try to cancel your previous days off and get this one instead, rather than on top of the days you don’t need? Third, @CaliHoya is right — you only “get” one day, the wedding day, to celebrate your wedding. The rest is extra.


The only extra celebration of our wedding is the dinner the night before, which we are hosting, because I didn’t want to deal with other people’s schedules or ask people to host things for me.


J&J stands for “Jack and Jill,” right? Almost nowhere in the world has them, so it’ll probably be OK if you don’t (I realize this sounds dismissive, but I’m just not convinced there’s a big gap in your wedding if you miss out on something like this). But I admit to being very confused about why you’d need a day off for an evening party, unless you work nights. Why not just attend, rather than taking a day off?

ETA: I agree with other posters that if you want something at a time that works for you, you should try planning it. It’ll be exactly what you want!

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