- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I can’t put into words how much grief my bridal party has caused me. I have two good groomsmen and one good bridesmaid, and considering the bridal party is 9 people, I’m pretty frustrated.
I have two MoHs and one is (well, was) planning our J&J. She practically begged for the opportunity, and had since November to do it. She set a date right away and started working on finding vendors.
At the start of April, I got a text that the date had been moved because the hall she wanted was booked that day. (Why didn’t she book it sooner?) I was a bit pissed because I’d already booked the day off of work, but booked the new one off and tried to get over it.
I got worried (again) when my one good bridemsaid asked me a couple weeks ago if I’d heard from her, because they had yet to print tickets for people but she needed the file. I tried to put them in touch, but my MoH wouldn’t answer anyone. I tried to shrug it off, because it was beyond my control and I had other stuff to worry about.
Yesterday (the J&J was supposed to be next Friday) my good bridesmaid was nice enough to tell me that it had been canceled. She said they were apparently planning “something else” now… for a different date a couple weeks later. My Bridesmaid or Best Man was apologizing to me, saying she wouldn’t be able to make it because, like me, she’d already booked both the initial dates off and couldn’t take another. I’m also not able to book more time off, as I went way out of my way to get those two dates in the first place. That aside, I need a month’s notice to book a day, and I’m already taking so much time off for the rest of the wedding stuff that I’m pushing my luck. If I’m not lucky enough to have the new mystery day off, I’m going to miss my own party.
Thinking about all this, and the fact I also don’t get a bachelorette party – I’ve now literally got no celebration of my wedding – is making me utterly distraught. I have spent 8 months busting my ass, planning this big wedding by myself, having to twist my bridesmaids’ arms just to find out if they want to book with my hairstylist or if they need help finding shoes for the wedding, and they can’t set up one evening of fun for me? I would have planned it myself if I were allowed, but that’s bad etiquette, and they wouldn’t let me help with the J&J either. Maybe if they had, it would have actually happened.
I’m sorry about the long rant, but I’m feeling really underappreciated, and a little indignant. It’s not like the J&J or a bachelorette party is the point of the wedding, and I know that, but I was literally looking forward to a night of fun and drinks with friends (and maybe a little extra income for the wedding) for 6 months. I’m really sad to be robbed of that. I could use an e-hug or a word of consolation, if anyone has any.