(Closed) my job… it’s poison

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 1
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Hey bees… this is not technically wedding related, but I need to vent a little. When I moved here over a year ago I was given a temp job working for this software company. Log story short, the ended up firing the office manager whom I was temporarily replacing, and then firing their customer support specialist. They offered me a full-time job as Support Specialist, but wrote all the office management duties into my job description. A little frustrating and a little demeaning, considering my qualifications, but whatever. I could deal.

Then the economy went sour and they took the Finance Director down to 30 hours a week and appointed me to take over several of her duties. So for the past 8 months I have pretty much been doing the jobs of 2 and a half people. Not only that, but everything I am doing is a priority:

– customer support questions/issues must be dealt with no later than an hour from the time it is reported.

– Finance stuff must be dealt with ASAP because we are a small, struggling company.

– Office management basically means I am answering the phone whenever it rings and doing a hundred other last-minute projects for anyone who is my superior which is, apparently, everyone.

I work over 50 hours a week. I work my @$$ off for this job, and the pay is not outstanding. And lately the finance director will find any reason to get me into trouble. I don’t think it’s personal… it’s just that I am doing too many things– it’s too much for one person to handle. But I am supposed to, and do it all with a smile on my face.

I DREAD coming in to work. I dread e-mails I receive from my superiors. This place is a toxic, passive-aggressive, dysfunctional nightmare and I am stuck in it.

Mr.Rain is looking for a job and the hope is that he will have one in 4 months when we get married and I can quit to find something else. But until he has a job, it would financial suicide to quit my job.

I am so, so very unhappy. Frown

Post # 3
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495 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

OH man, that is so rough.  Is there anyway you can talk with your boss, and at least ask for some financial compensation for all your hard work?!  hang in there! hive hugs!!!!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I went through this before it blissfully ended 4 months ago.  I spent three years at a company I loathed.  I spent the first two years thinking things might get better, and the third year being completely and utterly miserable.  By the time I left, our group had been slashed from 12 to 4 and we were each doing the work of 3 people.  I was working from 8am (at least) until 8 or 9pm and missing graduate classes left and right. 

There’s nothing wrong with looking for a job when you’re already at a job.  Every night when I got on the computer and applied to job after job, I reminded myself that someday I would get out of there.  Quitting and looking for a job was not an option for me because we absolutely need both of our incomes.

After months of looking, I’m at my current position.  It’s great and I’m happy.  Things will get better…even when it seems they never will.

 

Post # 5
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Not only is that not an option, but I have already been given a written reprimand. And was told, if there’s not enough time in the day to get everything done then I need to stay late. Regardless of the fact that I already work 50+ hours a week.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Hive hug. Sorry you are dealing with this stress! I can totally relate, but just hang in there. So many people are out of work, and I personally have 3 friends who haven’t found work in 4 months and have sent out close to 700 resumes.

On those days when you feel like you will just die, find a happy place and count yourself lucky that you have an income.

Post # 7
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2027 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Miss Rain, lets be friends. We are in the same boat, and on top of that, its my husband’s family I’m working for..Ugh! And today I find out that someone else is leaving and I’m pretty sure they’ll want to take over there too. Seriously, sometimes moving up is not worth it!

I’ve been doing a lot of soul-searching lately to figure out what I really want to do with my life, because this is not it. Just letting you know you are not alone!

Post # 8
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

oh no, I feel your pain! I feel like they’re doing that more and more now, cutting back employees and giving those of us “lucky enough to still have a job” an impossible work load. I was in that boat too, but my fi was very supportive of my decision to GET OUT! You’ll be able to get out too, four months may seem like forever but it will go by quicker than you think!

Post # 9
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3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Ohh I hope you are paid hourly!

Post # 10
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495 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

ugh.  Then I would take hotchildinthe city’s idea and just start lookign for potential new jobs so once your hubby has one, you can pounce!!!

Post # 11
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399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I was in a similar situation, and it sucked.  I joked that my title should be VP of Everything.  By the last year in my job, I had so many job related meltdowns that my Honey was more than happy to support me when I quit.  That was a luxury that I know most people don’t have.  Don’t wait for your Fiance to get a job.  Start looking now and apply to anything that looks interesting.  You never know what might come along.  Good luck!

Post # 12
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699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

You poor girl! I have been there! It sucks when you are working so hard and doing so many tasks and no one seems to notice except when you don’t do something right away for them.

I know this is easier said than done, but is there any way you can talk to your boss about how you are feeling. Maybe keep a journal of the hours you put in for 2 weeks and the jobs you are performing. Tell him/her that you are thankful for your job and want to make sure everything is done properly and that maybe it would be best for him/her to help you create a list of priorities. This way, if someone who thinks you are their assistant wants you to do something, you can tell them that you have A, B and C to do first and you will get to it when you can. If they complain, you can tell them about your priority list. Like I said, so much easier said than done, but it may help a bit.

Sorry you are having to go through all this. Hang in there!

Post # 13
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Thanks for all of your supportive responses!

I am NOT hourly. I wish I was! And my salary is just high enough that I’d have a hard time finding something else that pays as well. I actually have been job searching, but Mr.Rain’s job could be anywhere in the US or even in another country– most likely not where we live now. I would feel a little dishonest taking a job knowing in 4 months I could be leaving.

I have a lot of people praying for my situation and for Mr’s job hunt. But some days, like today, I feel physically ill being here.

Post # 14
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Little Bear, I had the same thought! I talked with my supervisor about this and for a whole MONTH I kept track of every minute of every day. It was NOT easy, but I felt certain that once they saw how much time and energy I put in, they’d ease up on the scrutiny and work with me. Yeah. Naivette.

Post # 15
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908 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@Heathaah – I was thinking the same thing!  I hope you are hourly and I hope you are recording every last minute of overtime that you are working.

I’ve been in several toxic work environments and I know it sucks!  You don’t have to wait for your FH to get a job to start applying.  Upload your resume to Monster and Career Builder, draft a decent cover letter and start applying to jobs.  I know that after working 10 hour days, the last thing you want to do is apply for jobs but once you do the resume and cover letter, it’s easy to send them off.

Post # 16
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952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I wish both you and your Mr. a ton of luck in finding a job. I’m right there with you, I LOATHE my job. The people are rude and incompetent and one co-worker quit and I’m doing 90% of his job plus my own. Like you, some days are easier than others. Yesterday was ROUGH, today is better. I try and hope that most days are better than horrible, and I wish the same for you.

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