Post # 1
A little backstory. My niece is 20 years old and has two children. She is not with their father anymore. They were supposed to get married last month, but broke up a few months ago.
Well, niece is already dating again. The guy she is dating is in PRISON for embezzlement. They met at the local community college, he was allowed to attend via a work release program.
He gets out of prision 11 days before my wedding. Apparently my niece thinks it ok to wait until then to RSVP as she told my mom they are planning on attending if his parole officer lets him cross state lines, otherwise they won’t be coming.
I’m just floored by this whole thing. I should probably just mark them as “no”, huh?
Post # 3
Wow. You can’t make up something that crazy. I would NOT be comfortable with him coming to my wedding, and I would very clearly let her know that while I would love to see her, her ex-con isn’t invited. I mean, he will have served his time, and he deserves the benefit of the doubt, but the first time you meet your niece’s recently released boyfriend shouldn’t be at your wedding. That’s not fair to you.
Post # 4
Awkward! I’d just tell her you need to know before then and just tell her to RSVP for herself if she’d like to come.
Post # 5
Oh wow! This is a bizarre situation. I would mark them as a no. It is highly unlikely his PO is going to let him leave the state that soon after getting out, especially since you are not a relative.
Post # 6
your niece don’t waste any time huh? wow is all I can say I dont think she is making the best choices in life right now and what about her children, I hope they dont have to meet this man anytime soon. I am not going to judge him just because he went to jail but she should be careful about bringing someone around her family when she does not know him well herself.
The main point is that you do not know this person so he need not be at your wedding!