(Closed) My long distance story-

posted 5 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 2
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11280 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

What do you mean you became ‘very aggressive’?  Your post says you became aggressive, displayed a bad temper, criticized him to the point that he feels broken & threatened him with divorce.

Now you’re worried that his feelings for you may have changed?  Can you blame him?  

All you can do is apologize & talk to him.  You may have taken it too far.

And definitely get yourself into therapy immediately.  

Post # 4
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97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - City, State

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orangybee:  

So sorry for your situation.

I can’t see why he doesn’t want to move in with you? Now that you’re married, it is a new life for the both of you AND you have to be his priority, not his mom. These are the thing you both should have planned that before getting married (how about the mother, who moved, stay where, etc.)

The only thing I would suggest, talk over things again with him, speak your feelings, but be open and considerate about his too. I do think you have to apologize to him, as no man wants to be treated like that by their wife. Be respectful to him in all you do.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

See…getting married was a mistake after only having been together for a few weeks and you are feeling those pressures now.  It sounds like you do not manage conflict well together.  It also sounds like you are nowhere NEAR being on the same page.  As much as you love him, love will not be enough to sustain this relationship.  Love is NEVER enough.  You need to be on the same page with everything including how to organize your finances, where to live, who (if anyone) will live with you…those are just the basic things you should have discussed and agreed upon before getting married.

I agree with you — divorce is your best option.  There are so many things that are “off” in this relationship.  It sounds like you married a man who you didn’t even know, but were enamoured with.  I think you were enamoured with the IDEA of being with him and being in love with him.  Actually being able to live in the same location and being in love with him as a man is very different.

So move home.  Stay home.  Divorce him.  It will be hard but I think it is the best choice.

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orangybee:  

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