Post # 31
Glad the ring was found!
But yikes, your future SIL sounds a little odd…I think she took the ring and held onto it, for whatever reasons. If you ever have to stay at their house again, don’t take anything that you wouldn’t want to “lose.” Heck if I were you I’d get a stand-in ring from Etsy or Amazon and wear that around them instead. Keep your real ring at home. Same for any other jewelry (earrings, bracelets, necklaces).
Oh, also editing to add, if you have expensive shoes or purses, maybe don’t use them/wear them around this woman. Who knows what is going on in her head…and if she hid your ring for months and then “found” it, I wouldn’t put it past her to “accidentally” ruin any of your other possessions.
Post # 32
Oh wow! I remember this story. I’m glad it was found but I do agree that it seems a bit odd.
Post # 33
I remember this! I knew that bitch took it. We all did. Trust your gut. Get he ring checked, send your replacement back and enjoy having your precious back. But jeeze what an awkward situation this is going to be for the rest of your lives.
Post # 34
So Bees, do I send her something like an Edible Arrangement as a thank you? (I know she loves them)
She is weirdly competitive, moreso with FI’s younger sister (the youngest, younger than the brother she is married to). The youngest sister recently announced that she is pregnant and the brother’s wife’s nose is a bit out of joint as she was hoping to be pregnant before her. It’s a good thing we live out of state from them but this is the brother that Fiance is closest to so it will be very weird.
Post # 35
Nope! It really is nice of you (and you must have the patience of a saint) to think of sending her something. But it’s unnecessary. You and Fiance have said thank you to her. She doesn’t need anything else.
Post # 36
I personally do not think you need to send her anything!
Honestly let’s not act like she saved a life here, she found you’re ring. And we are using the term “found” very loosley because we all know what happened. She took/hid the ring for whatever selfish/stupid reason she came up with in her head.
You thank her, and that is that. She didn’t preform brain surgery. If anybody in you’re family is smart they will wonder just how blind she was in order to have a ring floating around her house for so long without being found. As a dog owner myself, there is no way in hell that dog no matter how dense it might be, would hold onto that ring without swallowing or eating it and pooping it out.
Her story was amazing for someone who’s not smart enough to put things together.
With that being said, a thank you card that costs maybe 1.50 $ is reasonable in this situation…and edible arrangement. NO WAY.
Post # 37
Can you say pawn shop???? I know in our state you have 90 days after pawn to get it out. The time frame seems right and it always seemed sketchy to me. I wouldn’t send her anything or reward her for doing the right thing months later. I would give her a reluctant thanks and keep it moving.
Post # 38
No way! Don’t encourage her behavior. You said thank you. You didn’t pursue her strange evasive statements when the ring first went missing. I’d say you’ve done plenty.
Post # 39
Yeah, my final comment from the first thread stands:
“The dog probably didn’t eat the ring. Your asshole SIL probably has it.”
I would not be willing to stay at their house anymore again EVER. Like I’d be the ridiculous woman at 73, planning for a family trip talking about “No, we are NOT staying at that thieving bitch’s house. You know how she stole my ring 50 years ago.”
Truth to tell, it would probably only be a matter of time before there was a family gathering and wine made me giggle and call her out “So, for real. Why did you take my ring and make up that terrible lie? Pretty much nobody on Weddingbee believed it was the dog.”
Post # 40
I would send her a ring dog toy. Like a stuffed toy that looks like a diamond ring and tell her to give it to the dog to replace your ring he obviously liked so much.
But, i’m petty.
Post # 41
Maybe just send this in a text
Post # 43
Y’all petty 😂
But for real. Do NOT send her an edible arrangement. A thank you card will be just fine. Bad behavior should not be rewarded.
Post # 44
Please don’t send her ANYTHING. I know you won’t, but just throwing this in for good measure. I was a lurker when you posted the initial story and I thought she was sketchy the whole time. I’m happy you’re getting it back! But echoing other sentiments, you do not owe her a thing.
I’m curious, did you ask her where she “found” your ring? It’s extremely weird after supposedly combing the place all this time, she only recently found it. I’d love to know what she has to say about that.
Edit, sorry I see now it was found in the dog bed? Right… how she’s able to look you in the eye after this mess is beyond me.
Post # 45
Happy to hear the update. That being said….It took her three months to find a ring in the dog bed? Shame on her! Either for being a shady thief or just plain dirty. Who doesn’t bother to vaccum the dog bed in 3 months? Sure blame the poor dog! The dog moved it around. I’m sure the dog did. Different dog though. No edible arrangements for you!! Bad dog(meaning your SIL).
Ps I thought I remembered you ending up happy with the replacement. I remember it was really nice. This must be a confusing time for you. One has sentiment. You grieved and got used to the new one and now you have to switch again. Plus gaining a sil that is questionable. UGH. I’d be so confused if I was you. Hugs.