Post # 1
I looove this site, so many great people and ideas. The people are so sweet and supportive and the idease are amazing and I love the creativity. The only problem is, I’m not engaged. I don’t know when I will be, maybe not for another year. But being on this site, I get so entranced by everything wedding, I think its making me crazy. I am constanty looking up wedding ideas, planning for a day that I have no clue when it will happen. I have things picked out that I probably shouldnt lol like the song I want my wedding party to walk down the aisle to, I don’t think I should know that before I am actually engaged. All the while my BF doesn’t know I am secrectly going wedding crazy. I feel like I should stop coming on here because its so awesome I can’t stop having weddings on the brain like, all the time. Is anyone else experiencing this? Should I just stop thinking weddings all together until a more appropriate time?
Post # 4
you should certainly stick around. Whether you are preparing for a marriage or not, the bee is a great supportive community that has grown to be about so much more than just weddings. Although if you find yourself jumping the gun a bit, maybe you could be on the fitness boards or other Not Wedding Related boards so you don’t drive yourself crazy 🙂
Post # 5
I felt that way too when I was on here and waiting. It’s a double edged sword, it can make the waiting a little easier in that it gives you an outlet for your waiting frustrations, but it’s hard to get weddings off the brain when you’re hanging out on a wedding message board! Have you guys discussed engagement? Any kind of timeline in the works? How long have you been together?
Post # 6
You should join the waiting boards. That’s where I started off. I contributed to wedding discussions though like dress votes or recaps. There is nothing wrong with giving your opinion on a subject. The Waiting boards gave me somewhere to vent, laugh, cry, and just be with other women who knew a proposal was coming and they were just waiting.
Post # 7
Yes we have discussed it and I am not in a rush at all. I said I don’t want to get married til about 2014 but I would like a long engagement. We have been together for 2.5 yeas and live together and have a dog (our child lol) together. We have discussed it but I want to save up and be more advanced in my career before we get married but i can’t help looking at all the pretty things and getting excited lol
you are right, its like a good group of girlfriends without the cattiness (most of the time) lol, which is good cause I don’t have a lot of girlfriends to bounce my erratci “girl” behavior off of..
Post # 8
I was planning my wedding way long before I was engaged!!! I’m not crazy…I am just a hopeless romantic with a creative streak… Noting wrong with that!
Post # 9
Welcome! I think even though you are still waiting youll find a lot here. There really is something for everyone. There is even a whole section about non-wedding related things like Fitness, Food, Home, etc. Ive been married over 5 months and I still love it here because I can give suggestions to others or comment on things to help someone out.
Post # 10
i felt that way before i was engaged too! we also had been living together with a furbaby for about 3 years when i started going wedding crazy. i kept trying to stop but it’s really hard once you start! i had a bunch of inspiration pictures picked out and ideas, but once we got engaged, my vision changed a LOT as it went from fantasy to reality (ie, summer wedding in dc when it’s super hot and humid? no way our wedding’s outside like i imagined!) and incorporated my now-hubby’s preferences. but having a sense of what all went in to wedding planning was ultimately soooo useful–it really helped speed the planning along once we were officially engaged.
Post # 11
Thanks! thats definitely helps… and your furbaby is adorbable 🙂
Thanks everyone, I guess I’m not the only one in this Limbo Boat. Hope everyone is having a great week!
Post # 12
I’m in the same boat. Completely addicted. I’m on this website at work too much (while on break?), oh who are we kidding!
I’m not engaged yet, but my BF knows about the site. We call it “the blog we don’t talk about”. 🙂
Post # 13
Oh! and I’ve definitely gotten things from this site that aren’t wedding related as well. So I think it can still serve a purpose.
Post # 14
im in the same shoes as you:)
Post # 15
I was actually just talking to one of my best friends about this! She’s definitely with the guy she’s going to marry, they’re just not in a rush what with grad school and everything, but with all my wedding planning stuff–shoot, I am way ahead of the game what with getting married in August 2012!–the wedding bug has bitten her. And I don’t think anything is wrong with it! If you can see wedding planning as this fun, exciting thing you look forward to, why not? Swoon at dresses, drool over letterpress invitations, whatever. You’re not making any decisions, just checking out things you like, and if you change your mind, great! You have time!
I think wedding planning is such a delightful experience for most of us because our lives don’t permit regular party planning. We might meet up with friends at the bar or for dinner, and the best I ever manage in-home is a potluck or barbecue. My brother-in-law’s mom once told me about the awesome parties she and her husband had/went to in the 60’s in Jersey. Everybody put on nice clothes, had cocktails and a buffet or hors d’oeuvres, caught up with each other and danced all night. And she went to one of those almost every weekend back then! Of course weddings are all about making a commitment to the person you love, a rite of passage, etc. but I think all the interest in the details is our pent-up desire to socialize, dress up, and have FUN in the midst of our busy, work-addled lives. That’s why we have bees that come who aren’t engaged and bees that stay after they’re married. So yeah, I agree. Join the waiting board and stay on here and have fun with us!
Post # 16
The Bee actually helped keep me sane when I was impatiently waiting lol. It gave me a place to channel all of my wedding frustrations…it makes it easier now that I am engaged lol…everything is already planned!!