I’ve been married for 5 months now, but here is what played out with this situation.
I called her and we had a long heart to heart, she insisted that she wanted to still be in the wedding and we made ammends.
The day before the wedding we were scheduled to take formal pictures of family and bridal party because on the wedding day there was not enough time and it was going to be 90 degrees.
I told her that pictures were at 6, so she should aim to be there by 3:30 to make sure she had enought time to eat something, relax, and get ready with all the girls.
She called me from the road to say that they were running late at 4. It was a 10hr drive, so I was understanding and I didnt let it phase me and just had everyone help her get ready. We were 15min late to the picture spot but it was okay. When we get there she tells me that they were actually in town at 3pm, but they stopped at a hotel to “have some fun” and lost track of time….Okay, whatever. I moved on.
Pictures went great. Her dress looked really silly and the photographer asked if she had a different one, we all had a chuckle and just went with it. Even her! As we were taking pictures she tripped slightly on a step and the best man offered his hand incase she fell. She laughed and said “Im engaged, dont get your hopes up!” I responded by jokingly saying, “Darn, C (groom) already told all his guys you were avalible!” The whole group laughed. She laughed so hard she had trouble keeping a straight face for the next few photos.
We finish photos and the rehersal. I am relaxing in my room later finishing some wedding details when she stoms in and tells me that the comment I made was totally inappropiate. I apologize profusely and sincerely. We made ammends and I went to sleep.
As all the girls are getting ready for the ceremony the next day we hear wailing from her room. Her fiance has broken up with her (I find out later it’s because she decided to attend my wedding when he didnt want her to.) I go talk to her and notice she has a faint, but visible black eye. I and ask if she still wants to be part of the wedding, and what happened. She refused to say anything about her eye, but tried to get her dress on and hair done, sobbing hystericially. At this point I’m 30min late, and I tell her that we have to go now, but that I think she should stay and compose herself. She agrees.
Ceremony goes off without a hitch. She shows up to the reception and says that she talked to her fiance and they got back together. I told her that I was glad things got worked out. Later her mom tells me that her SO was threatening to come beat up me and my husband during the wedding.
Fastforward to the day after the wedding. She texts me saying she no longer wants to talk to me or be my friend because her fiance “doesnt want her to have friends who don’t 100% suppourt their relationship no matter what.”
She then informs me that they are no longer getting married, because his divorce is not yet finalized, and he wants her to meet his four kids first (all under 10yrs old.) I also find out that he is 29, not 25. (She is 19).
Now they live across the country together with the kids too,and she has posted pictures of her passed out drunk on facebook (she never drank before). I’ve seen more black eyes too. She has been “allowed” (by her SO) to call her parents twice since she moved. She started talking to me again a few months ago, and as long as we keep it on neutral topics she is still “allowed” to talk to me.
Im insanely worried about her. I knew he was bad news!