Post # 1
So, i have asked (a best friend since I was born to stand by me as my maid of honor.
This may have been the worst mistake ever…..everything she is doing is giving me anxiety. She isn’t thinking of the fact that I have a wedding to plan and just bought a house to renovate….and well she expects me to have all the details down for her so she can arrange her plans. It’s just not that easy. I have 6 months until the wedding, and well I can’t help it, but there is stuff that still is not concrete…..you’d think she give me some slack.
She annoys me with every aspect for the wedding, bach party, etc. I have finally asked a great friend to intervene and help out. She calmed me down, but why is my Maid/Matron of Honor giving me more StRESS???????
Anyone else with this issue?
Post # 3
Wait, I don’t think I understand everything. How is she stressing you so bad? Is she constantly asking about things, like multiple times a day?
Post # 4
She needs to know the whole weekend plan of the wedding…….I HAVE NO IDEA.
Evryday it’s…do you know when i should come in?
here’s another example…I’ve been in 2 weddings, so i have experience being a Bridesmaid or Best Man….
She took another Bm and went to look at the dresses i picked out……she didnt even call the shop, just saw they carried the brand. They drove 1.5hrs to find out that that store only carried 1 of the dresses……why didn’t she call and check? And then she calls me to tell me that no where in her area are the dresses i picked out.
It’s like you drove 1.5hr away without calling?/ WHERE IS THE COMMON SENSE?
Post # 5
Ok so I can understand totally that planning a wedding is no easy feat and the closer you get the more stressful it becomes. Do you think maybe youre just overreacting a little? Maybe theres more to the story but theres nothing that youve said that would justify or prove that shes done anything really wrong. She sounds liks shes just very, very excited about your wedding and yea may get annoying with perstering about details but come on, I think you should give her some slack.
And if you have a real problem with her, you need to talk to her yourself (calmly) and tell her just to take a step back, give you some space about details.
Just relax, its all going to be fine and you will have a beautiful, wonderful wedding! Howre you feeling about having to plan in general? Do you like it? Maybe this has nothing to do with her, it could be the planning.
Sorry, this probably isnt what you want to her but I thought I would be honest. *hugs*
Post # 6
your right…hence the screen name: not into planning.
im allergic. i hate everything about it.
but she’s also causing me more stress.
Post # 7
I think she’s just trying to help. I would just tell her that she’s being annoying about it and she needs to “back off” a little bit.
Post # 8
Look on the bright side, your Maid/Matron of Honor wants to be involved in the planning and she is excited for your wedding! If you read a lot of the other posts on this board, you’ll find some much bigger issues than the bridal party WANTING to participate.
If her zealous nature is bothering you that badly, I suggest you ask her to tone it down a bit and have her wait to do anything until you ask. But beware, that might add a whole lot of extra stress to your situation when it gets closer to your wedding day.
Post # 9
exactly waht 5292010 said – I have a Maid/Matron of Honor that doesn’t really help with much, she just likes to remind everyone she’s the Maid/Matron of Honor…
Post # 10
She sounds maybe a little more clueless or “wedding needy” than being a PITA. She might not know what she should be doing, or how to do it, or what goes into planning. So I’d try to relax a bit.
Does she need to know the timeline of the weekend because she needs to ask off from work? Does she have a long drive? People in some careers do need a lot of advanced notice when asking off.
Can you give her a rough idea. “Gee, I don’t know, I think the rehearsal will be in the eveing. So I’m planning on the Rehearsal Dinner to be a late dinner on Friday. Then on Sunday morning, we’ll have a breakfast. The should be buttoned up before noon.”