(Closed) my Maid of Honor is being a bigger pain in the ass than imagined.

posted 12 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wait, I don’t think I understand everything. How is she stressing you so bad? Is she constantly asking about things, like multiple times a day?

Post # 5
475 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ok so I can understand totally that planning a wedding is no easy feat and the closer you get the more stressful it becomes. Do you think maybe youre just overreacting a little? Maybe theres more to the story but theres nothing that youve said that would justify or prove that shes done anything really wrong. She sounds liks shes just very, very excited about your wedding and yea may get annoying with perstering about details but come on, I think you should give her some slack.

And if you have a real problem with her, you need to talk to her yourself (calmly) and tell her just to take a step back, give you some space about details.

Just relax, its all going to be fine and you will have a beautiful, wonderful wedding! Howre you feeling about having to plan in general? Do you like it? Maybe this has nothing to do with her, it could be the planning.

Sorry, this probably isnt what you want to her but I thought I would be honest. *hugs*

Post # 7
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think she’s just trying to help. I would just tell her that she’s being annoying about it and she needs to “back off” a little bit.

Post # 8
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Look on the bright side, your Maid/Matron of Honor wants to be involved in the planning and she is excited for your wedding!  If you read a lot of the other posts on this board, you’ll find some much bigger issues than the bridal party WANTING to participate.

If her zealous nature is bothering you that badly, I suggest you ask her to tone it down a bit and have her wait to do anything until you ask.  But beware, that might add a whole lot of extra stress to your situation when it gets closer to your wedding day. 

Post # 9
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

exactly waht 5292010 said – I have a Maid/Matron of Honor that doesn’t really help with much, she just likes to remind everyone she’s the Maid/Matron of Honor…

Post # 10
1652 posts
Bumble bee

She sounds maybe a little more clueless or “wedding needy” than being a PITA.  She might not know what she should be doing, or how to do it, or what goes into planning.  So I’d try to relax a bit.

Does she need to know the timeline of the weekend because she needs to ask off from work?  Does she have a long drive?  People in some careers do need a lot of advanced notice when asking off. 

Can you give her a rough idea.  “Gee, I don’t know, I think the rehearsal will be in the eveing.  So I’m planning on the Rehearsal Dinner to be a late dinner on Friday.  Then on Sunday morning, we’ll have a breakfast.  The should be buttoned up before noon.”

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