(Closed) My Maid of Honor isn't taking things seriously/blowing me off! (A little long)

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

it sucks she cancelled on you but shes not obligated to do any of that… just order her a dress, she doesnt need to be there (ive honestly never known a bridesmaid go to a ‘fitting’)

Post # 17
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580 posts
Busy bee

Do you know if your friend struggles with anxiety? Perhaps she is actually very anxious about being Maid/Matron of Honor and being seen by so many people, that she has been putting all this off?

Do you only text her, or have you spoken with her on the phone? When you ask her when she can meet, and she doesn’t answer for hours, or says she will come over to help and does, are you calling her? I would call, and ask her if everything is okay.

Perhaps her SO is influencing her in canceling plans, not responding, not looking for a dress? Why is her relationship not so great?

I would give her a deadline and tell her to go to a shop and place an order, and have them contact you for payment information. If she doesn’t met the deadline, I would ask her again if she would feel more comfortable as a guest. Perhaps the idea of being a Maid/Matron of Honor is just too much.

Post # 18
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

All this last minute cancelling makes me think something is going on in her life. I also think that the bigger problem is you haven’t seen her in two months, because it sounds like that’s a little unusual for you two.

I suggest you meet her for coffee for a non-wedding-related chat and get together.

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