Post # 1
Hi Bees! I don’t usually post, just lurk, but I was wondering if I could have some advice. Here’s the scenario: I am getting married 8/19/11, and I have four bridal attendants, all of whom are my sisters. My wedding colors are pewter with touches of sunny yellow and tangerine. They guys are wearing gray tuxes, with tangerine/gray/black feather bouts. The girls, except for my Maid/Matron of Honor wearing different styles of pewter/dark sliverish short dresses with accents of tangerine/silver in their jewelry, hair accessories and feather/fabric flower bouquets. So three of my attendants have their dresses, and my Maid/Matron of Honor doesnt. Her dress is supposed to be long. We were supposed to go dress shopping this week but then she got called for her kidney! She’d been awaiting a donor for 7 years so we were psyched! The operation, thank GOD was successful, and she’ll be recovering for a while but she looks fantastic and thank goodness everything is working the way its supposed to. Now that that’s over, I’m a little worried that we won’t be able to find her a dress. My sister was but now we won’t be able to get her dress until the beginning of July. I’m a little worried that we won’t be able to find her anything in time.
The factors that are making it harder is that she was formerly a big girl, and she’s not quite skinny yet. She has a bit of a belly that she feels uncomfortable with, so a gown with some sort of ruching or pleating in the middle was already a big consideration. But now she will be losing some more weight following her major surgery, so buying a gown now isn’t good. But July might be too late, right?
The factors that make it easier is that all the girls are wearing different dresses, different designers, so just the color is the same. (That’s right I carried one swatch from store to store) But it was not easy finding that color.
So Bees, what would you do? If I can’t find the color and/or I can’t get it ordered in time? My sister is my best friend, and she will be in my wedding regardless of what she’s wearing. I just need her and all my sisters standing beside me. But do you have any suggestions?
Post # 3
Congrats on your sister getting a kidney. That’s wonderful news! As for the dress, I have no idea. Honestly, I wouldn’t worry about it in this situation.
Post # 4
Can you find a dress available online now so that you can order with rush shipping when you are ready? Macys, norstroms, jcrew, ann taylor and many other stores carry nice dresses, cocktail and bridesmaids, in stock so you can get them right away.
Whats the color? do you have a sample picture?
Post # 5
Yay! How amazing! Congrats to you and your family – especially her!
These are kind of extenuating circumstances. I would probably just go shopping once she is at a comfortable place with her body. If you have time to order something – great. If not, I’m sure you can hit up Nordstrom or J Crew or something and find what you are looking for more at the last minute.
Post # 6
I agree with looking last minute and non-bridal stores. Especially as Maid/Matron of Honor, it wouldn’t be horrible if her dress wasn’t the same color as everyone elses. Congrats to her!
Post # 7
@TheFutureMcBride: Thanks for your congrats, I appreciate it! Our family is over the moon with happiness right now. The only reason the dress is somewhat important is because while my sister has been through a lot with health issues over the years, the strain of being on dialysis while waiting for a kidney kind of took away her “normalcy” and “sexy womanness”. She wants to be with everyone else not looked at any differently because she was sick. And this is very important to her. She could wear a potato sack and still be beautiful to me, but this is something she wants and is worried about…I want to make her happy after all she’s been through.
Post # 8
Bees, you are the best!! Thanks for the congrats and the suggestions! It definitely helps, and when I explain to her it will ease her mind. She gets out of the hospital today!
Post # 9
If you can find a dress in a color/style she’s happy with, I’d just order it in a slightly bigger size than she expects to need. Then, when it gets closer, she can have it altered to fit her figure at that time. A good seamstress can do almost anything. Congratulations to your sister!