My Maid of Honor stepped down

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

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emmamei :  Those are dumb reasons to think you’ll have a bad marriage. Be happy she stepped down and maybe rethink your friendship with her since she is so judgmental. Why did your other Bridesmaid or Best Man step down?

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I am so sorry that you are going through this.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

It is unfortunate that she didn’t turn you down originally as opposed to saying yes and then dropping out.

However, if she is such a great friend that you would ask her to be a Maid/Matron of Honor, would you not already know that her strict religious beliefs were in conflict with how you and your fiancé live your lives? Frankly based on her reaction I am surprised that you are even friends. Presumably you didn’t start drinking, cursing and fornicating only after you asked her to be MOH?

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Blushing bee

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emmamei :  I’m sorry that you’re going through this right now. It sounds like you were excited to have her by your side and share that day with her.

Is there a chance you might have outgrown this friendship? Tbh, I’d have a bigger problem with her judging my life decisions and not supporting my marriage, than her stepping down as Maid/Matron of Honor. frown 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I’m also sorry you’re going through this. Umm…FWIW, I don’t agree that any of this is an indicator of a bad marriage.

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Busy bee

OMG this is so unbelievably wrong. How self righteous is she? 

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Bee Keeper

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emmamei :  I think she’s incredibly rude but with that kind of judgment do you really want her standing next to you on your wedding day?

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

So this is the guy whose ex accused him of rape and you dropped his sister from the wedding over that because she’s friends with this ex and now your friend doesn’t want to stand up for you because of your fiancé.

I’m sorry bee, but again, there are a lot of fingers pointing at this guy from different sources. His family is whacked re the way you say they treat you.

 

Post # 12
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Newbee

first of all I’m sorry this happened. nobody deserves this 

It really sucks you have to be hurt and I think it’s really your MOhs fault for not speaking up earlier. 

Considering she probably knew all of these things before accepting to be your Maid/Matron of Honor and know that these things won’t change, I think she’s irresponsible and inconsiderate to accept in the first place and then bail now. 

Everyone’s entitled to their own beliefs but promising something and not going through with it is wrong. A friend who isn’t supportive of you no matter what is not a friend. Sorry 

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