Post # 1
Does anyone else think this is rude…I’ve been engaged for about a year and a half, planning my wedding for a year, and my Maid/Matron of Honor just got enagaged in February, decided to have her wedding about a month and a half before mine and is using the same colors as me….thoughts?
Post # 3
It is rude,but I wouldn’t worry about it unless she copies your dresses and flowers.lol.Maybe you two happen to like the same colors.
Post # 4
Meh – don’t worry about it. 🙂
To be honest, I can’t remember the colour scheme of any wedding I’ve ever been to and it’s not like your choices are going to be exactly the same even if your colours are. I’d chalk it up to “great minds think alike” and try not to dwell on it!
Post # 5
It’s just colors, seriously. No one owns colors, not even Tiffany and their blue. Be flattered that she liked yours so much she’s using them too and move on to more important things 🙂
Post # 6
I would be bummed out about the colors. Do you have a lot of shared guests between the two?
I would say that if you’re concerned, try not to share any other planning details with her. Have your girls order their bridesmaid dresses after your Maid/Matron of Honor has her girls order them.
I’m hoping it’s just a case of great minds thinking alike!
Post # 7
As her wedding is after yours I would not worry too much.
(It is a bit rude though!)
Post # 8
I think other than you and your Maid/Matron of Honor, no one will even notice you two share the same colors. Even though you were engaged first, you don’t really have any rights to a color unfortunately (think of all those poor brides who marry after you!!) Also, there are many shades to one color! Can you go with different shades?
Although I don’t think it’s a big deal, I would not pick colors knowing a close friend of mine has chosen them too (ie, my favorite color is purple but it is not one of my wedding colors for that reason).
Post # 9
I can understand why you would be upset — however:
I wouldn’t worry about it too much, 90% of your guests surprisingly won’t pay too much attention to detail. Maybe switch the color scheme up a bit… for example, if your color sheme was purple with silver accents, consider using purple as the accent color instead (of course this wouldn’t work if you have everything planned out). If your Maid/Matron of Honor is still planning out the details to her wedding, maybe pass the suggestion. OR maybe change your accent color or add a third color.
Either way take it as a compliment, but most importantly don’t let it ruin your day or your friendship.
Post # 10
I thnk it’s rude. I have one of FH’s Groomsmen who got engaged after us plan for their wedding to be two weeks before ours and ask FH to be a Groomsmen for them too!!!! So I’ve just opted to out wedding lol
Post # 11
I would talk to her about it. A close friend of mine we are both getting married a month apart and will be in each others wedding. We talked and made sure some of the main things wouldn’t be the same. The colors was one of our main, but thankfully we both like different colors and have some different ideas.
My advice, just talk to her about it & make sure other details won’t be the same. Colors can be the same if everything else is different I think. Hope this helps.
Post # 12
My sister and I are using the same color getting married 2 months apart but her accent is silver and mine is gold and we are going in totally different directions so its doable. Cheer up, it’ll be okay.
Post # 13
Seriously I am pretty sure a lot of other bees have probably “stolen” your wedding colours as well! Shock horror! I would also be interested in what your colours are since you didn’t say!
And as PP’s said most guests really don’t notice a weddings colour scheme for more than 5 minutes.
I think it is important to remember what the purpose of a wedding day is for two people to make a committment to each other and join their lives. Everything else (the party, the dress, the flowers) are just extras and aren’t needed to meet the end goal!
Post # 14
It’s just a color. Let it go.
Post # 15
Honestly, it’s actually really hard finding a colour scheme. Maybe she’s had family pressure / forgot what yours is. Your weddings will be different and a few weeks later, noone is going to notice! I’d let it go.
Post # 16
I think it would have been nice of her to have discussed it with you first, let you know that she loves your colors so much that she wants to use them as well. Like PP said, most guests don’t notice the colors (I know I never really do), but she could have planned her wedding AFTER yours out of courtesy, not before. If it really bothers you, I would gently bring it up to her and just say that you don’t want her to change anything now, but would have appreciated it if she had talked to you about it first. If it’s not too big of a deal to you, then just let it go.