Post # 1
I have a child from a previous relationship. He has my maiden name as his last name. My fiance and I are getting married next year . As my maiden name is on his birth certificate . Has anyone been in this situation wondering if they have to change their name on their child’s birth certificate or did you leave it the same ?
Post # 2
Maybe it is different in Canada, but I’ve never heard of anyone changing parent last name on a birth certificate. If it a record of who was the parent at birth. You weren’t You Newlastname at their birth. You have your birth certificate to prove you were born with that maiden name should anyone question whether you are really your child’s mother and your marriage certificate to prove you subsequently married and then changed your name.
Eta: If it is something you are adamant about doing, here any changes to the certificate have to be petitioned through the court. You only have the first year to make “corrections” (which can be almost anything including changing the child’s name) and any thing after that isn’t a correction and has to go through the court. You will want to talk to your local government agency – they likely have the requirements and process posted online.
Post # 3
I believe you can do that only after your fiance adopts the child. My name was changed on my bc after my father adopted me.
Post # 4
Not sure about Canada but in Texas, USA they need to go to court for this & it’s just a matter I paying fees. A friend changed her son’s…. a lot.
Post # 5
Just went through this with my sister actually…
Your ex would have to sign papers to terminate his parental rights, and your fiancee would have to adopt the child.
My sister had to leave the child’s name as it was.
Post # 6
In the US, you simply file a name change petition with the court. It isn’t a huge deal, but will take a few trips to the court house a d a few hundred dollars.
Just look up your location and “name change”, or “child name change”. I doubt it is too different in Canada.
Post # 7
It doesn’t sound like she is changing her child’s name. She just wants to change how her name appears on her child’s birth certificate (which again, I haven’t heard of people doing unless they are making corrections in the first year, or a case of changing the child’s name, like being adopted by a step-parent). So the certificate would read ChildFirst ChildLast was born to MomFirst MomNewLast, not MomFirst MomMaiden.
Post # 8
I’m in Ontario, but I’ve never dealt with that situation. If I’m understanding correctly, you just want to change your name on the birth certificate and not his, correct? I would probably leave his birth certificate alone. And then if there is any question about your name change, use your marriage certificate as proof.
Or just contact Service Ontario and ask them?
ETA: follow up questions – Are you changing your name? Would you consider hyphenating your name, so that there is still an obvious connection there?
2nd ETA: On second thought, I’m not sure if changing your name on the birth certificate would be possible. Wouldn’t it be tied to other official documents like the record of live birth and hospital records?
Post # 9
Thank you. That’s correct, I would just be assuming my fiance last name not a legal name change. That’s a great suggestion. Thank you again. I believe so that it is all connected , ex live birth and birth certificate. I am thinking of hyphenating it.
Post # 10
Thank you Anna for your feedback
Post # 11
Thank you everyone. All very helpful.
Post # 12
I’d just leave it. Doesn’t seem worth the hassle. Granted I’m in the US, but I’d bet he’ll only need it a handful of times in his life (and mainly for proving his own name/DOB, not his mother’s name), and that need goes down a lot once he has a passport.
Post # 13
I’m in the states, so I’m not sure how the birth certificates are done in Ontario, but both states that my children were born in put my maiden name on their birth certificates, not my married name (it specifically says “mother’s maiden name”). All of this is to ask, what is asked for name-wise on the birth certificate? Also, not to be pessimistic, but what if you end up divorcing? Will you change the birth certificate again? I divorced my ex (kids father) and reverted to my maiden name.
Post # 14
- Wedding: February 2019 - City, State
I haven’t been in this situation exactly, but my last name was my fathers last name. My parents divorced and my mother took her new husband’s name. Our names were different throughout my entire childhood through adulthood. No problems ensued from that and nobody ever questioned if she was my mother.