- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I’m going to start with a little backstory. My grandparent’s on my moms side never really had a lot of money while I was growing up. They are both REALLY generous though, and would help anyone even if they didn’t have the money. Well, two years ago my Mamaw won a quarter of a million dollars in a harrassment lawsuit on a fake credit card debt collector. When she got the money, she gave her children and grandchildren $5,000 each. That was supposed to be a one time gift to everyone.
Well, cut to today and she only has $10,000 left. My aunt, uncle, and two of my cousins have completely drained her. They will lie to her just to get money. It’s sickening. I’ve watched her literally give away $250,000. My aunt is addicted to pills (pain pills, xanex, methadone, etc) and she comes up with the MOST RIDICULOUS lies and my mamaw believes them! The same goes for my cousins and uncle.
My mamaw doesn’t believe me, though, when I tell her they are lying just to get her money. That really upsets me because she tells ME all the time how she’s going to be broke again, how all she wanted to do was fix up her house and get new clothes with the money…and she can’t. It upsets me because she vents to me about this, and I try to help her, and she won’t listen. She listens to THEIR lies instead of the truth from me.
My mamaw raised one of my cousins that uses her, let’s call him Ryan. His mom is the aunt that is addicted to pills, so obviously she didn’t raise him. So my mamaw pretty much looks at him as her own son. The other day, she let it slip that she pays his: Electric bill, car payment, car insurance, and student loan. He is in his mid thirties and has a job making probably close to $18-$20/hour (which is quite a bit in my area). The reason she said she pays all of those bills for him is because he gets child support taken out of his check. My response was “So what?” He is a GROWN man that is letting her pay for all his responsibilities!
At this point, I got really upset because she knows how hard I am trying to pay off my credit card bills. I am the type of person that never asks for help, so that isn’t the point. She looked at me and said, “If I COULD help you, I WOULD”…that went right through me. She is continuing to help Ryan with all these bills, but can’t help me? I asked her why she helps him, and not me. And her response was “Because I raised him, I feel differently for him than you.” I couldn’t believe she said that! I got so upset/angry that I started crying (which I never do) and got up and left.
It just bothers me so much. Me and FI go over there just to visit, everyone else goes over to bum money off of her. I help her out all the time. After her doctor appointments, I bring her food, I buy her clothes that I think she would like, I go to the grocery store and pharmacy for her, and she had the nerve to say that to my face? What makes Ryan more special than the rest of her grandkids? Why only help certain people who LIE and not people who help her?
And I wouldn’t even take the money if she did offer it to pay off my bills, it’s the principal of the fact she told me she can’t help me but she continues to help Ryan (and my aunt, uncle and other cousin). Blahhh!
Thank you if you made it all the way through this. I just needed a place to vent.