(Closed) my man has asked the wrong person now what do I do???

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Newbee

You deserve to have the person you want, therefore I think explain the mishap to bestman Bob. If he is a great friend, then he will understand.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@lindzi34: I totally agree. Explain the mix up and I bet they understand. 

As soon as you think something along the lines of “I hope PersonA doesn’t find out about this.” – they’re gonna find out. Just be honest πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

What about deciding to walk by yourself? 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

You have to admit this would be pretty hilarious in a sitcom or something.  πŸ™‚

What was the best man’s reaction?  Seems like he would be kind of confused and caught off guard and not really know why he was being asked if he’s more your FI’s friend than yours.

I’d say bring it up to your Fiance, explain the misunderstanding, and ask him to talk to his Bob and explain the mix-up (or you can talk to him if you think that would be best).  If you’re honest about it hopefully you can minimize any hurt feelings on his part – or maybe he won’t have any, if he was confused about why he was being asked in the first place.

I wouldn’t worry too much about your Bob finding out he was second to be asked.  If he knows about the confusion and how this all happened, he’ll probably find it funny.  It’s not like you really meant to ask the other Bob first and are using your Bob as a back-up – you meant to ask your Bob all along but your Fiance was confused.  So I don’t think the situation will make your Bob feel second-rate.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@stokieGal:  Yeah, I understand. I have anxiety too and it helped to have someone there.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I went to a freinds wedding last year, where her dad anddd 6 older brothers gave her away. 

Nothing wrong with having… 6 brothers give you away. 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Why don’t you and your Fiance walk down the aisle together?

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013 - Garden at Heather Farms

I agree, if you’re going with your friend bob if you explain the mix up i’m sure he’ll be fine with that… but it is your wedding and it sounds like you really want your step father to give you away…I have a similar situation although my wedding is much farther off than yours my step dad is the one who has been there for me but recently my biological father and I have reconnected. I think that my step dad has earned the right to give me away but my biological father is still a part of my life I also have my brother who was the man in my life in between my bio. father and my step father so my plan is to have my Bio father walk me out and then somewhere in the middle hand me off to my brother and then my brother will hand me to my step father who will actually give me away. You could do the same…but modified just with your two dads. I think ever father wants to have a part in his little girls day…Even if your step father is trying to respect your Biological dads “right” you still want him to be a part of it and i’m sure he does too. just a suggestion πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

It’s so nice that you would your (step)dad to walk you down the aisle.  Hopefully he agrees!

If not, then I would just explain the comedy of errors.  I’m sure Bob and Bob would understand.

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