Post # 1
Not complaining!!!! But dont know what to make of it all! Since Christmas my SO has surprised me over and over with a diamond necklace, matching diamond earrings, a blue topaz RHR, an aquamarine RHR, and now a matching set of aquamarine and diamond earrings and necklace! We have had specials occasions like Vday, 1 year sobriety date, trip to Maui and my birthday, but it feels like too much! He came clean about what he paid for it all…we can afford it but goodness it was not cheap!
He says it is because he loves me, I deserve it and he will do anything to make his girl happy. He overwhelms me and I just love him so much. I also know he is still looking for the e-ring and I still think it will be this year, just no idea when. We did browse in Hawaii though so he now knows what I like and when we came home he took me to get sized properly from a good jeweller. What do you bees make of all this excessive spoiling??
Post # 3
Without knowing any details, I can hypothesize two situations: one best-case scenario and one worst-case scenario.
The best-case scenario is that he is just incredibly doting and is gifting you all this jewelry in advance of the engagement so that he can “top it off” with the engagement ring. And what a story that would be! Fingers crossed that this is the case!
The worst-case scenario is that he is trying to stall on the engagement by satisfying a perceived need for pretty jewelry. A close guy-friend of mine is doing this. I don’t really know his girlfriend well, but he loves her and just isn’t ready for marriage. They’re fairly young, so he thinks that the driving force behind her constant need for engagement is her desire for pretty jewelry. So he has bought her bracelets and necklaces and even a RHR… anything but an engagement ring. OP, this is definitely the most Negative Nancy take on your situation… but judging from the type of jewelry he’s gotten you, I really doubt you’re in this boat!
In the meantime, enjoy all the pretty baubles and show ’em off!
Post # 4
@skjumps: +1! that’s exactly what I was thinking!
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I think he’s just in the jewelrey buying mood from looking at engagement rings!
Post # 6
I don’t want to get my hope up but I am sort of leaning towards the best case scenario. We are both a little older (30 and 37) live together and have completely merged our lives together in almost every way as a married couple already. We talk about our wedding and marriage often, and never in terms of “if”…always “when”. We have only been together for a year, but we both knew from almost day 1 that this was the real thing, and neither of us wants to wait too long to take the next step.
He also told my Mom over the holidays that he is starting to look for my e-ring…I don’t think he is giving me all this as a stall…but who knows.
Post # 8
I think Id just be basking in the impromptu gift giving!
Post # 9
@skjumps: ++1! Couldn’t have said it better myself.
Post # 10
@sillysillybee: Hoping for best case scenario for you, but either way, congrats on all the beautiful sparkles!
Post # 11
The cynical side of me says that he is overcompensating for something if he hasn’t spoiled you with so much jewelry before. I’d be suspicious! But I hope for your sake that’s not the case and that the next piece of jewelry is an e-ring. 🙂
Post # 12
Can you give him my husbands phone number?!?!
Post # 13
Whoa! BEAUTIFUL jewelry pieces! I wish my SO would give me some kind of jewelry! Just before the holidays I accidentally broke a bracelet he had given me a very long time ago and I asked for a replacement for Christmas and he hasn’t given me one. I know he’s not upset about it breaking, it was an accident and it was a fairly cheap bracelet (CZ, silver plated metal, which did not bother me at all), but I don’t know why he has not gotten me anything else. Sorry about the mini rant.
Post # 14
I really hope that these are genuine “I love you” presents, otherwise thie could be stalling, or worse still “guilt” presents (you know, the “I felt so bad as I was coming home from my mistresses house, I stopped off and bought you a present”).
Post # 15
@QueenofCups: Haha. I know for sure they are not guilt prezzies…my man has got it bad for me and only me.
Post # 16
Hey, that’s cool! My SO has only gotten me one piece of jewelry in the course of our relationship; a sterling charm bracelet with a charm on it that says “forever.” I always wear it.
I’ve been spoiling myself with jewelry lately, though! I used to buy jewelry fairly often, before SO and I got together, and had stopped doing so without really realizing it. I’m now doing it again, as part of the “focus on myself” approach to coping with waiting. I also sorted, re-organized, and cleaned my jewelry collection. I have very particular but perhaps slightly archaic taste in jewelry style, and I only wear solid sterling and prefer semi-precious stones (some of my favorites are smoky quartz, labradorite, moonstone, and garnet, though I do also like blue topaz and amethyst), so the items I buy are rarely very expensive ($5-$80), despite being well-crafted.