Post # 1
I received a shocking facebook message today. My best friend from highschool who is my maid of honor, decided he couldn’t be in the wedding. For the last 6 weeks i’ve been trying to get him to go order his tux and he has yet to do so. Last night I called an left him a message about it. Today he facebooked me to inform me that he won’t be attending my bridal shower. (My best friend is throwing it) He has not returned any of her phone calls, texts or emails regarding it so she just went with it. He told me he has plans. I said to him that if he feels like he can’t be a part of these important events that go along with the wedding ie: bridal shower, rehearsal, and bacherlorette party to let me know. I have 27 Days till my wedding day.
I was only having him and my best friend whose flying into New York from Scotland for my wedding. I don’t have any other bridesmaids to put forth into that position. I am so HURT and upset. I don’t know what to do.
I could bumb my best friend up into maid of honor status. But, then that leaves me to choose a bridesmaid. Do i choose my Sister In Law who is my sister from another mother and who has helped me more times then i can count with this wedding and is there for my daily venting session, as well as being my 16 month olds godmother. OR do i choose my best friend whom i am very close with has decided to throw me a bridal shower on her own. When her wedding is 2 months away. Whom My fiance, myself and son are in her wedding.
HELP HELP HELP
Post # 3
And i forgot to mention. 2 months ago my MMOH started dating my Fiances Sister. Ever since then they’ve both been incognito when it comes to answering our phone calls/texts and not ignoring any of us.
Post # 4
@jayyym823: i would bump your current bm to moh and i would have both the other 2 ladies as you bm, sounds like you can’t decide between them
Post # 5
I would bump your other bridesmaid up. And choose one of the other girls. Pretend that you had to have 3 in the beginning and who would you have chose? and then go with that one.
I was asked to be in one of my friends bridal party’s 3 weeks before the wedding. Her bridesmaid was not being a good friend in the least bit. So she got fed up and booted her. I was kinda behind with everything going on but we had a blast in the end.
Also you can always just have one if you honestly cannot choose. A friend of mine has 4 bridesmaids and her hubbie has 5 grooms men.
Post # 7
My fiance is having his two oldest best friends as groomsman. I’m not sure. When he gets home tonight were going to discuss it more. I’m just so upset about this whole situation. I don’t know how to feel or act at this point. Thanks ladies! <3
Post # 8
I’m so sorry this happened! It sounds like he was definitely not fulfilling his role, and really not being a very good friend. It sucks when that happens.
I would promote your current bridesmaid (sounds like she has been there for you). Other than that I agree that you could go any way (i.e. just having 1 Maid/Matron of Honor, choosing both potentials and having 3 in your bridal party, or picking one of the potentials). Based on what you said, it sounds like both potential girls would be excellent bridesmaids. If it were me and I had to choose, I would probably ask the sister-in-law, since she is family.