(Closed) My Man of Honor is the Best Ever! How do I protect him???

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 2
592 posts
Busy bee

I understand being protective of your brother – I have two and damn any woman (or man) who tries to take advantage of them. But with that being said, I would stay out of it. I wouldn’t bring anything up that you heard, because like you said, it’s heresay and may do more harm than good. 

I think you can approach it and be like “hey I noticed there was tension between you and x is everything okay?” Or “x seems pretty upset about the other night, is everything okay?” And sees if he opens up to you that way. If he doesn’t, it’s best to just leave it be. 

Post # 3
2368 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

You let him live his life. You are getting married and he is your big brother, he is old enough to handle this on his own.

I have no experience in a poly relationship! I wouldn’t know how to advise on it anyway, and if it were a conventional relationship and the girlfriend was acting smarmy I would do nothing.

They will probably be broken up by the time your wedding happens.

Post # 4
1650 posts
Bumble bee

Its his life, let him be – Im sure hes a big boy.

Post # 5
390 posts
Helper bee

This is a tough one. I would tell him something like the PP suggested, but add that you’re there for him if he feels like discussing it. “I noticed some tension between you and x…I hope you’re doing okay. I don’t want to pry, but I’m here if you ever want to talk.”

Post # 6
211 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I definitely think that you should not talk to him into his relationship.  Instead you should just tell him that you’ve noticed he’s not as happy as he normally is, and that you’re always there for him if he needs a ear. 

Post # 8
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I’m the opposite of everyone else. If its your brother, you should be comfortable talking to him about things. I would say something. Not exactly telling him hey you need to leave her, but mention to him what was going on and ask him if he needs to talk about it.

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