Post # 1
I just had to share this because I don’t really have anyone to share it with.
My SO is in the process of getting the ring made. We picked it out together, and now I’m waiting for it before we tell everyone.
My boss is in her late thirties, childless and has a boyfriend who doesn’t want to get married. she wants marriage and kids. she’s told me this plenty of times, and yet makes remarks about any of our colleagues who get engaged or pregnant because they’re ‘too young’ bla bla. she always says it with a hint of jealousy.
So the other week, my SO surprised me with the day off for my birthday. That day, my boss goes through some papers on my desk and finds a sheet i’ve been scribbling on to work out my holidays next year. on that sheet of paper is the word ‘honeymoon’ and my trial testing my ‘new signature’ (hey, who doesn’t right? haha).
so she sends me a text on my birthday of a photo of the sheet of paper and says “anything you want to tell me and J?” (the other girl who sits on our desk). I knew what she was trying to do. She was trying to embarrass me because of my daydream doodles. So instead of acting all embarrassed (which I definitely was!) I text her back “oooh well you’ll find out soon!” she responded with “oh wow.. sorry.. i was just joking! was looking for paper.. mums the word… i’ll leave you alone now”.
So today she’s not in the office and I find out from J that her response was terrible! She went white in the face and started saying “no.. they can’t be getting married! they’re too young! how could they afford it?!” and properly started to freak out.
In a way I’m glad she found out when she did. It sounds harsh, but this women is constantly trying to manipulate me at work and I’m just glad I have something I can feel smug about.
But I do wish I could have seen it for myself… I guess I’ll have to wait for the rock for that!
Post # 3
I am an Old-Timer (over 50) and an Encore Bride-2-B
I can GUARANTEE you this.. in life no matter WHAT you CHOOSE TO DO, there will ALWAYS be “people who will talk” and voice their opinions about you behind your back
Just human nature (and folks who haven’t matured enough to figure out that gossip is a waste of time)
Who cares… their hang up
Infact… if I knew MY BOSS was this way, I’d be looking for another job… I mean seriously, who needs the drama ?
At my age, I’ve taken to surrounding myself with ONLY positive people… makes life a gazillion times easier
PS… Your post about your own life, engagement, honeymoon, practicing signature, that was all very cute. You rock it hon !!
Post # 4
Guess that what happens when you snope. You find things out you dont want to know!!
Good for you, standing your ground and not letting her get the best of you!! She is jealous, and green is not a good color on anyone 🙂
Post # 5
She sounds like a dick. I wouldn’t let it bother you.
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Post # 7
@This Time Round: Paying for this wedding is the only reason I’m still there- I get paid way too much for what I actually do! 🙂
Post # 8
@mrssoontobeh: Teehee! I did feel proud of myself with that text. It really was the best way to respond! 🙂
Post # 9
Sounds to me like your boss has some growing up to do.
Post # 10
TO – lookingglass: you said,
Paying for this wedding is the only reason I’m still there- I get paid way too much for what I actually do! 🙂
Lol, in that case, I totally understand !!
Post # 11
haters gonna hate! kudos to you for not letting her get you down!
Post # 12
When my best friend got engaged, two of her other friends exchanged heated emails about how devastated they were and how it should be them and not her that got married. I speak purely from my own experience, but it seems us girls are programmed to feel competitive about this sort of thing. God, i’m ashamed to say I’ve had those same bitchy jealous moments 🙁 but the important thing to remember is that jealousy is just a projection of our own insecurities – its no reflection of anything you’re doing!
Im excitedly waiting for my boyfriend to propose, but I occasionally worry about how some of my ‘friends’ and not-so-friendly acquaintances will react to the news. I guess I’ll have to take my own advice and not let it impact on how I feel about it!
Post # 13
@fingerscrossed: +1. If you got haters, then you are doing well for yourself
“no.. they can’t be getting married! they’re too young! how could they afford it?!”
Cause they wanna! That’s why!
Post # 14
Wow that so unprofessional. And she has the audacity to not only violate your privacy but to take a photograph of it to. You handled it perfectly.
@This Time Round: ITA!
Post # 15
Good on you babe! She sounds like a jelous hag! Well done sweet X