(Closed) My MARRIED brother is on Ok Cupid

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would probably ignore it. Doesn’t seem like it’s your business. But then again I don’t have a brother and my sisters and I arent great communicators lol so maybe I’m wrong! 

Post # 32
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Sugar bee

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EDubbs:  I don’t have a brother but I would slap any of my mates upside the head! 

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee

what you need to do is make a fake account and search for his account! message him and when he messages back you’ll know he’s active on OKC, and by chatting you’ll be able to see if he admits to being married in an open relationship or not– then catfish him! have him meet your fake profile for dinner and you confront him in person. He’ll be so embarassed! haha, then you can seriously talk some sense into him, he’s about to destroy his marriage. And how many girls has he been seeing? the wife needs a STD test

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I would absolutely talk to him. If you don’t want to say that you say that mail, come up with a story. That a friend of yours saw him on there or something. 

Imagine it goes further and wife finds out. There will probably be hell breaking lose. And you don’t want to watch that, knowing you knew about it. 

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would talk to your brother before letting your imagination run wild without direct proof – it could be something, it could be nothing.

I get things from Match.com all the time because I used to be a member and obviously they weren’t satisfied with the job they did finding my husband!

 

Post # 36
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah I would be telling her. He’s already aware and lies about it. 

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m really sorry that this turned out to be more than spam/advertising. I don’t have any real suggestions about what to do apart from you will need to eventually call your brother out on it in one way or another. Whether that be now or after you’ve spoken to him a bit more through Ok Cupid. Your SIL does not deserve this. 

Post # 39
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Blushing bee

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MrsWizard:  OH my gosh I am so sorry you saw that email alert. Only married one year — That is so sad!!

Also if your SIL is planning on TTC starting next year, I would confront him on this ASAP. She may already have gone off birth control to start getting ready, you never know. Poor lady!

Post # 40
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Blushing bee

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yupmarried:  +1,000

 

This is exactly what I would do! Meet him for dinner! I would take it a step further and invite his unsuspecting wife to come along. He would show up at the restaurant ready for some action and then the blood would drain out of his face. Lol! I would thoroughly enjoy watching him fumble through dinner and then afterwards I’d take him aside privately and REAM him….

Post # 41
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

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MrsWizard:  It’s strange that he doesn’t use a real picture if he’s really trying to pick up women on there. Does he have an actual description of himself or just a few answers to the basic questions that you have to answer to have a profile?

Honestly, I’m still not convinced 100% that this means he’s cheating and not just being a troll or something. My friend who had a fake profile had accurate descriptions of herself and a fake (non-human) picture too. Maybe he was doing exactly what you are doing on there and spying on someone he knows! I say message him and see what he says. 

Post # 42
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Honey bee

Definitely catfish him like a PP said. It would be pure gold. And hopefully teach him a lesson. 

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Personally I would stay out of it. On the chance they are in an open relationship or have some other sort of arrangement, mentioning it could be hugely embarrassing for everyone involved. I’m of the opinion that we usually don’t know everything that goes on inside other people’s marriages. 

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

And, I would definitely NOT catfish. That has the potential to be mortifying for him and you! What if he’s one of those guys who is in the habit of sending dick pics to women he meets online?!?

Post # 45
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Helper bee

Look I am usually a pretty immature person but I’m really not sure about this suggestion that you catfish him in to a date and then show up and try to teach him a lesson.  I can see that backfiring in so many ways.  For one, you are being deceitful and playing tricks which I don’t think can ever be a good thing.  Secondly, I feel it is disrespectful to his wife as she may very well see it as you just taking the whole thing as a joke, and it may just make her situation even worse.

My suggestion is that you tell him you need to talk to him about something and it’s serious (my guess is he will immediately have a very paranoid hunch of what it is) and then just explain what you saw. I agree with PP’s saying not to go to his wife.  Calling him out on it should be enough, and if it isn’t, I still don’t agree on going to his wife.  He is your brother after all.

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