Post # 1
My wedding is two months away and my Maid/Matron of Honor told me today she will not be able to make it to my wedding. She is my best friend and i love her.
Although i know the reasons for her backing out at the last minute. It’s hurting like hell. She is facing some challenges at home with her husband and 4 year old twin girls.
I only wish she had told me earlier.
I have no idea what to do at this stage. I have no Maid/Matron of Honor, I can’t ask one of the guys to drop out, They have all rented their tuxs already
I guess i should have know something was wrong when she kept putting off going in for the fitting of her dress.
Her two girls was to be my flower girls.
I have no Maid/Matron of Honor and no flower girls.
Bees, i feel like my head is about to pop.
Post # 3
oh im so so sorry 🙁 how dissapointing and sad! Its fine to have the sides be uneven, nobody cares and you dont want a spot filler.
My husband one guy stand up with him, his best man and I had 1 moh and 2 birdesmaids. Do you have other bridesmaids? and you dont need flower girls, we didnt have any at our wedding and it was fine!!
Its sad that she dropped out but at least she was honest and 2 months is a lot better then 2 weeks!! It could be a lot worse 🙂 good luck, im sure it will all work out and your day will be perfect!!
Post # 4
@Future Mrs K: Thanks, I do have 4 brides maid.
Post # 5
@ashron: I had the samething happen to me not two months before, but anytime this happens is a sore spot to get over. Just remember the purpose of your wedding is to marry your mate..One monkey does not stop the show 🙂
Post # 6
This happened to me 28 days before my wedding. And her reasons were horrible- she was jealous I was having a cake, and dj at my wedding and she didn’t! She didn’t know how we could afford it ourselves, when daddy paid for her wedding, but she thought they were stupid two yrs ago when she got married. I was DEVASTATED. She was my best friend, my “soul” friend, and dropped out 28 days before, because she was that dang on envious. I should’ve seen the writings on the wall when she was downing all of my wedding choices. So, I know how you feeel. It hurts. It hurts badly. And it’s okay to hurt! Cry it out, and let it all out. I ended up with an odd number of groomsmen and bm since another bm got stuck in a snow storm in mid-march, and another one had a miscarriage right before the wedding.
The point of the story is this- in the end EVERYTHING worked out. Each day leading up to the wedding became a little bit easier than the previous one-even with bms #2-3 dropping out from snow-storm and miscarriage, and the Day of was perfect! I don’t want to say it will be perfect without your MOH- but in the end it’s about you and Fiance. The emotions, the love, the journey you’re getting ready to embark on, and the places you’ve already been all come together, and it is simply magical. I woudn’t trade in those experiences for anything, because I believe they all lead to our amazing wedding. So, right now you are hurting. And again, this is okay. But each day remember the amazing man you are getting read to marry, and know that your wedding will go on and be even better than you could have ever imagined. Feel free to pm me anytime. I truly have been there (and just 3 months ago-so it’s still fresh!)
Post # 7
It doesn’t help the fact that your best friend can’t make it to your wedding, which is heart breaking but we had uneven sides and it was perfectly fine. From a logistics standpoint, this is a non-issue, so just focus on the emotional, and try to keep in mind that she would be there if she could ((hugs))
Post # 8
I booted my MOH/former best friend because she turning into this monster of a person that I didnt recognize anymore. The first week was hard. It sucked knowing that she wasnt someone I could count on anymore. Im almost a month out since I kicked her out and I feel SO GOOD about my decision. These things take time to process.
Post # 9
I am totally lost. But i guess it could be worst.
I am going to sleep on it and see what plans i can come up with in the morning.
This was all planned out. She was to be my clover green among my truffle (chocolatte brown) color scheme.
As my best friend she was scheduled to toast the bride.