(Closed) My Matron of Honor can’t make it to my wedding

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

oh im so so sorry 🙁 how dissapointing and sad!  Its fine to have the sides be uneven, nobody cares and you dont want a spot filler. 

My husband one guy stand up with him, his best man and I had 1 moh and 2 birdesmaids.  Do you have other bridesmaids?  and you dont need flower girls, we didnt have any at our wedding and it was fine!! 

Its sad that she dropped out but at least she was honest and 2 months is a lot better then 2 weeks!!  It could be a lot worse 🙂  good luck, im sure it will all work out and your day will be perfect!!

Post # 5
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ashron:  I had the samething happen to me not two months before, but anytime this happens is a sore spot to get over. Just remember the purpose of your wedding is to marry your mate..One monkey does not stop the show 🙂

Post # 6
1351 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

This happened to me 28 days before my wedding. And her reasons were horrible- she was jealous I was having a cake, and dj at my wedding and she didn’t! She didn’t know how we could afford it ourselves, when daddy paid for her wedding, but she thought they were stupid two yrs ago when she got married. I was DEVASTATED. She was my best friend, my “soul” friend, and dropped out 28 days before, because she was that dang on envious. I should’ve seen the writings on the wall when she was downing all of my wedding choices. So, I know how you feeel. It hurts. It hurts badly. And it’s okay to hurt! Cry it out, and let it all out. I ended up with an odd number of groomsmen and bm since another bm got stuck in a snow storm in mid-march, and another one had a miscarriage right before the wedding. 

The point of the story is this- in the end EVERYTHING worked out. Each day leading up to the wedding became a little bit easier than the previous one-even with bms #2-3 dropping out from snow-storm and miscarriage, and the Day of was perfect! I don’t want to say it will be perfect without your MOH- but in the end it’s about you and Fiance. The emotions, the love, the journey you’re getting ready to embark on, and the places you’ve already been all come together, and it is simply magical. I woudn’t trade in those experiences for anything, because I believe they all lead to our amazing wedding. So, right now you are hurting. And again, this is okay. But each day remember the amazing man you are getting read to marry, and know that your wedding will go on and be even better than you could have ever imagined. Feel free to pm me anytime. I truly have been there (and just 3 months ago-so it’s still fresh!)

Post # 7
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

It doesn’t help the fact that your best friend can’t make it to your wedding, which is heart breaking but we had uneven sides and it was perfectly fine.  From a logistics standpoint, this is a non-issue, so just focus on the emotional, and try to keep in mind that she would be there if she could ((hugs))

Post # 8
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I booted my MOH/former best friend because she turning into this monster of a person that I didnt recognize anymore. The first week was hard. It sucked knowing that she wasnt someone I could count on anymore. Im almost a month out since I kicked her out and I feel SO GOOD about my decision. These things take time to process.

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