(Closed) My MIL missed the ceremony and never apologized! No reason-wth?!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think you should apologize for asking your Mother-In-Law to prepare food for your wedding since it was too much for her. Then you thank her for all of the things she did do, like providing food, a second party, etc.

Post # 5
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m wondering the same thing. My mother didnt show up, she refused to get in the car with my sister. What am I supposed to say to her now? If you figure it out, let me know!!

Post # 8
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999 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

at first when reading title…I was like wth why would she miss, how dare she….but then I see it’s because she was doing the platters for the wedding. It’s a lot of work and time consuming. I don’t think it was intentional.

Post # 9
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2981 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@MidwestBride2012:  The OP didn’t state originally that she asked her Mother-In-Law to prepare an overwhelmingly large amount of food. Asking for 1 cheese platter w/ bread isn’t asking for the world. She bit off more that she could chew and missed the ceremony thru no one’s fault but her own.

 @fivemonthsnotice:  I’m so sorry that people are disrespecting your wedding b/c you are an encore couple. People are very rude to make assumptions about your marriage and think that b/c it’s a second wedding that you somehow don’t deserve to celebrate the way a couple celebrates a first marriage. I think it definetly needs to be brought up to the Mother-In-Law, but maybe not right away. Give it some time to cool off before you or your Darling Husband approachs her with raging emotions, b/c she may just put up a wall or try and blame you instead of appologizing, which will make things even worse between you. 

It was nice of her to throw the BBQ and to get you a nice gift, but to MISS your ceremony…I can see why you guys are upset.

Post # 11
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8361 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Platters aside- maybe since your H’s dad passed away so recently maybe your Mother-In-Law couldn’t face being up there without her husband- that it brought back too much emotion for her and she didn’t to be having an emotional breakdown at your wedding.

Why do people always assume that someones actions come from a bad place?

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

@fivemonthsnotice:  ok then well that is different! She could still have been upset about H’s dad though- regrets/loss etc.

I have no clues but I am sorry for you an your Fiance that she wasn’t there and I am sure she is equally upset. She may of just lost track of time which is no excuse.

Edit to say- why didn’t the step-dad notice the time either- it is a bit strange that both of them couldn’t keep an eye on the tie unless they were trying to make a stepbrother for you H lol! <hope you laughed at that>

Post # 15
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864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@fivemonthsnotice:  If this is something your Fiance wants to question her about thats fine, but if I was you I don’t think I would get involved.

I can totally understand why your upset though. It’s a tough situation to be in.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@fivemonthsnotice:  I say move on.  It’s unfortunate and it mus be heart breaking but at this point it isn’t going to make a difference since you can’t go back and have the ceremony again.  Plus it’s going to cause more of a wedge between you and your Mother-In-Law. Forgive but don’t forget and see what the future holds in your relationship with her.

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