- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Eh, I got married 16 years ago without a bachelorette party and couldn’t have cared less. I had a lovely, small tea party for a shower and it was great. I absolutely think that if a bachelorette party is important to a bride, that’s valid, but let’s not paint everyone with the same brush.
I wonder how many posters telling you to get over it had showers, bachelorettes, etc. thrown for them…
If she offers then you snatch her up for help, if not ….. her standing up there for you should be the important thing. When these “roles” in a wedding party were created no one had help out very much.
Did you read the sticky in the Bridesmaids section of WB?
OP: You did have a shower though right. It might not have been planned by your Maid/Matron of Honor, but you had one. I think your other posts about your Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor paint a much different picture then you did here:(
I think some of you posters are being too harsh. The Maid/Matron of Honor overreacted she didn’t fire her she quit. all she said was she was disapointed b.c of her lack of interest in the wedding and the planning. im not sure why you are being so rude? No its not the Maid/Matron of Honor duties to throw a party but the fact she said she was going to and she failed at it would be disappointing bride does not seem to be a bridezilla or anything?
Im sorry this has happened two weeks before this totally sucks 🙁
OP – Sorry to threadjack. I’m sorry your Maid/Matron of Honor dropped out. Try talking to her again or sending her a note apologizing for any misunderstandings, etc. And realize that ultimately, your wedding is your (and your FI’s) responsibility and no one elses. If people offer to help, great! But they are not obligated to. Hopefully accepting that will make it easier to not get upset about the trip to Vegas, lack of bachelorette party, etc. Good luck to you.
Yes I agree with alot of you. Some of you are way too harsh. Chillax.
Weddings are stressful for everybody in the wedding party at somepoint.
In your post you said your Maid/Matron of Honor did not send out the invitations. Did she offer or agree to before hand? Cause if she did, then you have more than enough reason to be upset at that part at least.
OP, I just want to say that I’m sorry this has happened with your Maid/Matron of Honor two weeks before the wedding. If your Maid/Matron of Honor offered to help plan the bachelorette party, and didn’t end up planning anything, I can totally see why you would be disappointed. I also think you have every right to be upset about her going to Vegas two days before your wedding because you specifically asked her if she could come out early to help you with wedding things, and she said yes.
I’m in the camp too that bridesmaids should just show up wearing the dress, however, if someone offers or agrees to help out, then doesn’t follow through, the bride should have every right to be upset.
I hope you are able to work things out.
Cremebrulee41- Thank you for your understanding. I havent looked or been on for awhile. People have been mean. My MOH didnt send out invitations and I had asked her too., we even went together and looked at invitations and I offered to buy the invitations and send them out. Shes still in school and had finals coming out and I understood that. I tried not to bother her too much but with the wedding being in 2 weeks I really needed her help lately and finals had past. I have tried to reach out to her. I havent heard back from her at all. She has since deleted me from facebook and I have lost a close group of my friends and am completely lost.
I guess my question to you is: where do you want to go from here? Do you still want to salvage the friendship? If you do, you might have to reach out to her in person to talk to her about it.
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