Post # 1
I was Maid/Matron of Honor in my BFF’s wedding this weekend and this is the first time I have ever been a Maid/Matron of Honor. Her son took my bouquet when I was driving him to the reception (he is 6) and ran out of my van with it. I asked where it went and I was told they put it in a vase. When I tried to get it back, it went missing.
I found out that one of the out of town relatives misunderstood and took it! 🙁 I have asked for it back and I was told they were in town until yesterday, so hopefully I will get it back. The bride did assure me she will try to get it back, but I haven’t heard anything. I honestly don’t know what to do and am pretty miffed.
I really wanted to preserve the bouquet and am hoping it gets returned but I keep thinking what if it doesn’t? Or what if its dead now and not in good shape to preserve?My bouquet is on the left below.
Am I overreacting? What wold you do? It means a lot to me to have it. Arggh 🙁
Post # 3
It sucks that someone took it! Hopefully you’ll get it back, but if not you’ll still have happy memories and pictures to remember the day 🙂
Post # 4
I’ve never kept the bouquet from any of the weddings that I’ve been in. I didn’t even realize that it was an option, though I don’t think I would have wanted it anyway. Flowers mean very little to me. Even my bridal bouquet was trashed like a week after our wedding. So yea, I think you’re overreacting a bit.
Post # 5
I, too, had no idea anyone even kept their bouquets from a wedding. I think my own bouquet went in the trash. My friends might have brought theirs back home, but I would doubt it.
I wouldn’t worry yourself about this.
Post # 6
I would not want to keep them but I am also not big on flowers! Were you planning on drying them?
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Post # 8
I LOVE flowers and am super sentimental. I have the flower my Fiance gave me on our first date. So, this is just me…I know. At least I have pictures…just realyl annoyed someone would steal it and think thats ok! I even sat with her the next day and she knew it was MINE and didn’t even bring it up. Seems kinda sneaky.
Post # 9
Every wedding I’ve ever been in the bouquets for MOH/BMs were then used as reception decor–I never got to (or wanted to) take one home.
Post # 10
Eh, I would have tossed it, so I think you are overreacting personally. I’ve honestly never heard of bridesmaids keeping/preserving their bouquets.
Post # 11
I have never heard that the bridal party got to keep their bouquet. I wouldn’t be too upset, the bride and groom payed for it so its not like you are out anything.
Post # 12
I honestly don’t think this is a big deal. Let it go, perhaps if you were the bride and want to perserve it that would be a different story. I have been a bm six times and I think most of the time I left mines at the reception.
Post # 13
Is it possible the Out of Town guest mistook it for a centerpiece or something? Even though I totally disagree with this apparent tradition, sometimes people help themselves to the centerpieces without asking. I really doubt this person stole the bouquet. She probably just assumed that it was either part of the reception decor or that the Bridal Party didn’t want it which tends to be the norm at most weddings.
I definitely wouldn’t hound the bride about this. If it’s gone, it’s gone and there’s nothing that she can do about it.
Post # 14
It seems kinda odd to me to preserve a bouquet from a wedding that’s not your own. I’ve heard of brides preserving bouquets, but not members of the wedding party. Plus, I thought the Bridesmaid or Best Man bouquets traditionally became part of the reception decor?
Post # 15
I have mine from my friends wedding last year dried at home, but I wouldn’t have been bummed if it went missing or got taken by someone – it’s just flowers.
Maybe if it were my bridal bouquet, but not one from someone else’s wedding.
You should try detaching your emotions and memories from the bouquet and attach it to the event itself, or photos you have of yourself and your friend. Did she give you a bridesmaid gift? This is moreso meant to be a ‘souvenir’ of the day than the bouquet in my opinion.
Post # 16
I also say let it go – in the grand scheme of things it’s not that big of a deal. I am sure you have other sentimental things that you can keep to remind you of the wedding!?!?