(Closed) My MOH can’t come to my wedding.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee

Your feelings are natural. You are right to be upset that your best friend wont be there to share it with you, but as you said, you know you are not in your right to be mad at her for having a baby.

People often try for years without success. So even if she was trying, she had no way of knowing when she would get pregnant.

Maybe you can set up a web cam so she can view your ceremony?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Maybe you can set up a web cam so she can view your ceremony?

This was what I was going to suggest! She might not be able to be there in person, but she would be there in spirt!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

Aww, that really sucks (but is also great!).  You have a right to feel sad right now for sure but don’t tell her that part.  A lot of my friends tell people that they’re “not trying, but not trying not to” when they are actively trying without success….not sure if she would do that, but it’s possible.

 

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You could change the date

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@littlemissmango: oh hun that sucks! I’m not going to pretend that it doesn’t. Give yourself a few days to grieve over the situation. Come at the situation afresh and see if there is any sort of solution you can come up with that makes you feel happy.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

You aren’t alone in this. My Maid/Matron of Honor won’t be at my wedding either. 🙁 I empathize with you.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

keep your head up. everything happens for a reason… and it’s not your FI’s side of the family anymore. It’s YOUR family. Get to know them 🙂

ps – REALLY stupid she didn’t tell you. I would have been livid. You’re a much better friend than I would have been.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper

Maybe she’s been trying for a long time without success, and didn’t expect it?  I’m sure she’s sad that she won’t be there, even though she’s (obviously) happy she’s pregnant.

Post # 12
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Newbee

You have to understand that no woman wants to tell her friends that she can’t get pregnant. I’m sure that she has been trying much longer than what you assume. Celebrate with her, as I’m sure that she has been celebrating with you

One of my best friends got married in St. Lucia, and I was unable to attend because I was unable to come up with the money on such short notice. A few weeks after they returned, they had a wedding celebration that I was able to attend. In one of the rooms, they continiously play the wedding video, so that those that were unable to go to the wedding could see it.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

if you go to offbeat bride- there is adivice that shows you how to live stream your wedding. And you can totally do a web cam!

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