Post # 1
should I be concerned? When people call and ask her she told me that she’s telling them we want money for a house. Which is true but I dont’ want to be sitting there all afternoon opening envelope after envelope with just checks…I feel like thats what our wedding is for. And if that happens what do I say? I’ve been to so many showers and the lovely guest of honor had funny things to say about each item she opened. What do I keep saying if all I get is checks? Is it stupid I’m concerned about this? I know my mom followed up with our family and clued them in to where I was registered but our registry hasn’t really been touched.
I know this is stupid to be worried about but….
Post # 3
If you are registered at a store, your Maid/Matron of Honor is…special. Clearly you registered FOR A REASON. Give her the store(s) you registered at and tell her to spread the word (and contain the damage she’s done!)
Post # 4
If she’s not willing to spread the word about where you’re registered, can you ask another friend/family member to do that?
Post # 5
I can see how that would be a little awkward, aren’t gifts the whole point of a shower. I would let your Maid/Matron of Honor know where you are registered and ask her to let everyone know. Good luck!
Post # 6
Oh, I have a feeling I know why this might have happened? It’s always a sticky situation when you’ve registered for gifts but you actually want money…..it isn’t proper for you to ask for cash, it’s only really acceptable for others to mention that privately, if asked. So, if your Maid/Matron of Honor might have thought she was doing the right thing by telling people what you "really" wanted. Also, is it possible she planned a shower that isn’t gift centered? They don’t have to be gift-centered if you don’t want them to be. Whatever happens, enjoy being the centre of attention, have a glass of wine or a nibble of good food, and try not to get wrapped up what "should" have happened. Not everyone understands wedding "protocol" like the hive!