(Closed) My moh doesnt like her dress

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
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8439 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Let her pick a different dress.  I know it’s your wedding, but your wedding party should be about having your closest friends there with you, and I would never force one of my closest friends to be uncomfortable for my wedding.  I’m sure I’ll have the unpopular opinion here, but for me, the person in my wedding party is far more important than what they’re wearing.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I have been a Maid/Matron of Honor 3 times and 3 times I have disliked my dress. I didn’t say anything as it’s not my day! I proudly stood by my friends and wore Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses from hell. It’s kind of funny now to be honest. Unless my boobs were falling out I wouldn’t say anything.

Post # 19
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11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

This is why I let my ‘maids pick their own dresses. I said, here’s a color and a fabric aaaaaaaaaaand go. Hell, I let one of them (well, I opened the option to all of them) choose a long dress because she isn’t comfortable in short dresses. I am morally opposed to shoving all of your BMs in the same dress.

Post # 20
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494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@suburbian:  That’s the plan, actually. I might cover that cost for her as an additional gift to being my Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 21
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2094 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have always thought if someone hates their dress that is in a wedding party, something larger is at play. Something you may know nothing about or that has nothing to do with you.

 

Post # 22
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7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

It depends why she doesn’t like it. If it’s inappropriately revealing, or she is a “larger lady” and is self-conscious, then I get it.

However, having had a bridesmaidzilla who rejected dress after dress because of the fabric/front/back/cut/seams and everything else in between… to some extent then she really has to just suck it up, especially if you’re paying for it!

Post # 23
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494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Coral99:  I know, that’s what I’ve always thought too. She told me that when she gets married she wants bright red dresses – this is something I would never ever wear again as red is too eye-catching for my taste, but I would have absolutely no issues! I would just go with the flow! I don’t understand why she had to make so many comments about the fact I chose long. 

Post # 24
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Newbee

I figure that way they can get something they like AND that is within their budget.

Post # 25
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166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

MY Maid/Matron of Honor is the same way.  I gave the color, material, and  length, then allowed all of my girls to pick their own styles.  Once her dress arrived, she said it made her look fat (she is a size 6, the other girls are sizes 10-22)I told her if she didn’t like it she could exchange it, there was a 2 week window for exchanges, but she choose not to.  Now she just says that it doesn’t look good, but she will suffer. 

She also said when she gets married, I will be wearing a Pink Flamingo costume.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MissKit:  What is your relationship with this gal? Is she competitive with you? Does she have body issues, in that maybe her legs are her best feature? Is she a control freak?

I’m not trying to be harsh to your friend…I’m just trying to understand what could possibly compel someone to complain about the long length.

Lastly, can it be shortened? Would you be willing to allow that if it could be done?

 

Post # 27
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2094 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@emf51912:  Hahahhaha. That made me laugh.

Post # 28
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494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Coral99:  She can be competitive… she’s also a very stubborn person. For example, when I was looking at dresses I found a possibilty and showed her and afterwards she said “When you choose a dress, can you at least choose one that can be shortened? That one can’t be. I checked”. It was a pretty plain a-line dress and I don’t understand why it couldn’t have been shortened. I didn’t go with that one, but if something isn’t what she wants, she’ll make things up to prove her point. Although, I do accept these qualities about her, that’s why she’s my Maid/Matron of Honor. I did give her an option of long dresses in the end though, but I was firm and said they’d be long. The wedding is formal and I played with the idea of letting her go short with the rest long, but I feel short dresses are less formal and she’s the Maid/Matron of Honor and shouldn’t look less dressy.

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MissKit:  Ahhh…ok…you want long because it’s formal. Well, I guess she didn’t have to accept to be Maid/Matron of Honor. She had that choice and she accepted.

Maybe she was asking because she wanted to get the dress shortened after she wore it?

I still think there is something larger at play…When gf’s make shots (that was a shot…the can you at least find a dress than can be shortened comment) I swear, to my core, there is somethig going on with them. I’m sorry her attitude is causing a problem. At least it’s one day and at the end of it you will be married. 🙂

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