Post # 1
So I thought that I would have some resistance from my Maid/Matron of Honor when it came time to pick out her dress and the rest of my bridesmaids dresses.
I didn’t expect to hear the brunt of it when it came to MY dress.
I went dress shopping with her the first couple of times and realized she was extremely opinionated and was not liking a lot of my choices. I decided that I would go alone the fourth time – in which I found a dress that I loved!
I had my Mom and my Maid/Matron of Honor come back to the boutique with me so I could show them both. At the time I didn’t realize that my Maid/Matron of Honor was completely silent the whole time. My mom was gushing and I was gushing so I didn’t really realize that she hadn’t said anything. Anyways, I went on to buy the dress!
More recently she’s made comments about not liking the dress. While I wish she had spoken up earlier, I’m not 100% positive I would have NOT bought it had she said something. However, it makes me very nervous now that I’m hearing her be very wary of this dress on me.
Did any of you girls run into the issue of your Maid/Matron of Honor not liking your dress choice? How much did their opinion effect your decision?
Post # 3
What’s really important is that YOU love your dress. I haven’t run into this yet, but it could very well be because everybody is lying to me about liking the dresses I like 🙂 But, everybody is entitled to an opinion, and it sounds like your friend just isn’t afraid to voice hers. But, like I said, if you love your dress, it shouldn’t matter what your Maid/Matron of Honor thinks. She’s not the one getting married!!
Post # 4
No, I haven’t had this happen to me. Even if my Maid/Matron of Honor didn’t like my dress, she would probably be too polite to flat out tell me that. And why would it matter? I’m the one wearing the dress, it’s MY wedding, those are going to be MY wedding pictures that I am going to show MY children and grandchildren. I would be more upset if my groom didn’t like the dress. But if my Maid/Matron of Honor has a different taste, so be it.
Post # 5
She definitely should have said something before you purchased–it’s just stupid to say something now, she should keep her negativity to herself.
What is important is that YOU love it & feel great in it. Not what anyone else thinks.
“If you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all” as the old adage goes..
Post # 6
@KateByDesign: Honestly, I absolutely adore the dress you chose, and I’m very surprised your maid of honor would be be so passive aggressive with you! (I can’t imagine my best friend telling me that she didn’t like my dress, and she wished that I would have chosen something else AFTER THE FACT. My Maid/Matron of Honor definitely has a different style than me, but we support each other’s choices!!! As a side-note, She is goth and I’m not, so we definitely don’t see eye to eye in styling;)
When it comes down to it, the most important thing is that you love what you are wearing. Your mother also seems to love what you are wearing, so that is a double plus! Just because your Maid/Matron of Honor is being ugly and childish about not knowing the RIGHT time to speak her mind, doesn’t mean you should suffer for it. Be confident in what you chose, you must have “gushed” for a reason. In the words of my sorority sisters “GET IT GURL!”
Post # 7
If YOU love it, that is all that matters!
Post # 8
@KateByDesign:One of my close friends got married recently and I was not a fan of her dress. It was a heavy thick Kenneth Pool gown. She was a beautiful bride but it was not my style of dress. I was not getting married and I would have looked stupid to say that to her because she loved it! That’s why there are a billion different styles of dresses to meet the the likes of each individual bride. Until she is the bride she should shut her mouth and smile. It’s not about her it’s about you dear.
Post # 9
Well she’s definitely opinionated and a bit too blunt… I mean, there are a million wedding styles and you probably don’t like most of them – but does that make a dress any less pretty to the person buying it?
I would ignore her comments and let he know you don’t appreciate her attitude…
Post # 10
@allieisasweety: Thank you! This response made me smile! So cute.
Post # 11
Don’t worry, my Maid/Matron of Honor and my cousin came with me and they found “THE DRESS” except it wasn’t the dress for me.
When I picked mine (their “THE DRESS” helped me accept my own “THE DRESS” which I had tried on when they weren’t there) they were just like, “uh, sure, ok, do you not like the other?”
And, know what? I made the right choice– AND SO DID YOU!