(Closed) My MOH doesn't seem to care. What should I do?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@YarnPrincess:  unless you’re prepared to demote her then i don’t think ou can really do much about her attitude–maybe a heart to heart about your feelings being hurt instead of making it a criticism of her.

Post # 4
10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

How old is she? If she hasn’t been in or really even to a lot of weddings before, she may not realize what’s expected of her.

Post # 5
7312 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

You should let it go. Hopefully you didn’t choose her to be your Maid/Matron of Honor because she would throw a good party or lace you up well. These are non-issues, so there’s no sense in making them into issues.

Post # 6
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@YarnPrincess:  In my world, IF I was having a bridal party, the premise of it would be “hey, I like you alot! I want you to stand with me at my wedding and have fun with me.” I would place absolutely ZERO expectations on showers/bachelorette parties/etc.


While I understand I’m not the norm, I do understand my bridesmaids would by my bridesmaids bc I enjoy their company, not because I expect them to plan parties or be in awe of every aspect of my wedding. They have lives, too, and I’m sure my wedding isnt NEARLY as interesting for them as it is for me.


My point: just enjoy having them next to you to have a great time at your wedding, no expectations. Especially with your sister. It’s not worth the drama.

Post # 8
2025 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wouldn’t fight with her about it.  I would talk to her and let her know she is hurting your feelings.  You don’t want your wedding day to be ruined because she still is not showing any interest in you or what you want for YOUR wedding.  My Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister too but she lives in MA and Im in NC.  I don’t expect her to do anything.  I am a little bit of a control freak though and I am planning my own bachelorette.  Just a few of us girls going on a weekend getaway to the beach.  I am already asking my girls to spend a lot on the wedding in general so I don’t want to ask them to do must else. 

Post # 9
20 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

My Maid/Matron of Honor lives in CA, bridesmaid in VT, bridesman in MD and I’m in NY, so I don’t expect to have a bridal shower or bachelorette party. They help me with wedding planning as best as they can from afar. It’s mostly sending pics to get a second opinion. They’re already flying to the wedding and purchasing their dresses, so I don’t expect them to do much else except celebrate the day with me!

I’m sure you’d like your sister to be more excited for your day, but she doesn’t spend her days thinking about wedding details like we have to so she probably isn’t as into the planning process. I’m sure she’ll show more excitement on the day of the wedding when the festivities happen!

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