(Closed) My MOH hates weddings, or maybe just mine…what do I do? (long)

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am SO SO sorry. That is horrible. She is turning everything around on you, and it sounds like she is manipulating you. Do what you want to do and leave her out of it. She is being extremely inconsiderate after you told her what you wanted from her.
She doesn’t want to do this, tell her that you want her to either just stand there as a Bridesmaid or Best Man or attend as a guest. That is her choice. You need a Maid/Matron of Honor that will be excited for you and pamper you on your wedding day!

Post # 4
151 posts
Blushing bee

Well since she will be mad either way I say do what makes YOU happy (it is YOUR wedding after all! Smile) If she isn’t being helpful, or there for you in the least bit, then I don’t think she deserves the title anyway. 

Post # 5
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sounds like she won’t be happy regardless of what you do.  So do what makes you happy.  That doesn’t sound like ‘not a big deal’ either, so don’t think you’re being overly sensitive.  If she’s acting as you say she’s acting, lots of brides would of booted her a long time ago.  That’s unacceptable.  She’s going to damage a 20 year friendship because she ‘hates weddings’.  How can you HATE a wedding?  You can not enjoy attending them, but, its not like its a funeral.  No one should have such strong feelings toward a wedding.  Honestly, she sounds super bitter.  If she were getting married, her tune would change.  I’m so sorry you’re going through this, it sounds really stressful.  I’d probably ask her to step down. 

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