Post # 1
The Bride is totally insane!! First, let me say that I have NO problem with my Maid/Matron of Honor being in someone else’s wedding. The best wedding advice that I recieved was “the world doesn’t stop because you’re getting married”. When my Maid/Matron of Honor called and said that someone asked her to be a bridesmaid I was totally cool with it.
My Maid/Matron of Honor called me on Sunday livid. She said that the Bride had sent them all a link in a facebook message telling them to hurry up and buy their bridesmaid dresses online before they sell out. They were department store prom dresses 50% off. My Maid/Matron of Honor said she knew she was going to have to buy a dress, but not like this. To make matters worse my Maid/Matron of Honor wears in extra large due to her breast and they were sold out online and she even went to the store to try on different sizes and nothing worked!
I feel terrible for her because I would never in a million years treat my bridal party like this. Now the dilemma is my Maid/Matron of Honor wants me to talk to the bride (she’s my friend as well but not very close). When I first got engaged I read an etiquette book just to learn a few wedding traditions and I ended up learning a lot about how to treat your bridal party. That’s why I ALWAYS talk to them over the phone when it’s anything important about the wedding and don’t ask them to come to any appointments with me unless they REALLY want to.
I feel uncomfortable saying anything to her because I don’t want to sound like some know it all. I asked my Maid/Matron of Honor to just say something to her, but she thinks it would mean more coming from another bride to be. What do yall think I should do?
Post # 3
@Meant2Bee: It’s not your place to say anything. You should let your Maid/Matron of Honor handle it herself.
Post # 4
You shouldn’t get involved, if your Maid/Matron of Honor is having a difficult time with another bride they need to deal with it themselves.
Post # 5
You stay out of it. Not your battle. Support your Maid/Matron of Honor but def don’t get inbeteen this. Just have yor Maid/Matron of Honor say they didn’t have her size and that she went to the store but no luck, what is the bride gonna do, rip her head off? make her walk down the aisl with a boob hanging out? “Fire” her?
Probably none of the above. The girl prob thinks she found a good deal for the dresses and it wasn’t very well thought through so your Maid/Matron of Honor just needs to open her mouth.
Post # 6
Absolutely do not contact this bride. This is so not your fight. I think your Maid/Matron of Honor needs to be honest with the bride that this dress won’t work for her because she simply can’t get it in her size. The bride probably thought she was being helpful but finding something 50% off. But I agree that you can’t do that without making sure a dress will work for your bridesmaids. I’m in the camp that when you sign up to be a bridesmaid you agree to maybe wear a color you don’t like a a style you wouldn’t pick for yourself. But you should never have to wear something that doesn’t fit or makes you uncomfortable.
Post # 7
Hmm I would stay out of it. Your Maid/Matron of Honor needs to just straight-out say the dress is already sold out in her size.
It is odd that she has decided on this dress without consulting anyone, without anyone trying it on… I assume this dress isn’t discontinued? Tough one!
Post # 8
It’s not your place to say anything, and frankly what the other bride did (send a FB message letting her Bridal Party know they should get their dresses before the sale runs out) doesn’t sound too crazy to me.
Post # 9
It’s not really your place as a not as close friend to say anything.
Post # 10
No, No and No. You do not involve yourself in this- your Maid/Matron of Honor is an adult and should pick up the phone. Also none of this sounds crazy. I don’t see the big deal?
Post # 11
Agree with everyone else. it is not your place to get involved. Your Maid/Matron of Honor needs to put her big girl panties on and have a chat with this bride. I’m assuming they are friends are relatives if she is in the wedding so she needs to speak up.
If this bride is extremely demanding and unreasonable, maybe your Maid/Matron of Honor should just step down?
Post # 12
Maybe it’s not crazy? I think I am super sensitive about other people’s feelings and I would want everyone in my bridal party to feel comfortable in their dress (even if they didn’t love the color).
Got it stay out of it.
Post # 13
It’s not your place to get involved. Your Maid/Matron of Honor needs to handle her own issues.
Post # 14
DON’T DO IT! It’s her wedding, not yours. Think about it. How would you feel if another bride came up to you and told you that you were doing everything all wrong. It is not your place.
Post # 15
Stay out of this one. And honestly, all your Maid/Matron of Honor needs to do is talk to the other bride and let her know that they don’t have a dress in her size… that bride can figure out what to do since she just kinda sprung this on them without checking to make sure that the correct sizes were available.