- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Basically, the last time I spoke to my long distance Maid/Matron of Honor she was upset because I wasn’t planning on paying for part of her plane ticket. She also assumed I would pay for her dress. I am paying for EVERYTHING else, meals, shoes, transportation, hotel, etc. so I didn’t think it was unreasonable to have her pay for her dress.
I’ve posted about this a couple times, trying to get perspective. It’s been a week since we’ve spoken. I called her the day after we talked about her paying for her dress, and texted her the day after that asking when we could talk. That was the last time I contacted her, assuming she would come to me when she was ready. Now it’s been a week, 3 months until the wedding.
She knew the dresses had to be ordered by this Thursday, and she told me her plane tickets had to be bought by the end of the week. Both deadlines have passed. Do I assume she doesn’t want to be in the wedding? Do I write her a letter and tell her she can’t be in the wedding? Am I overreacting? I’m truly upset, we (I thought) are so close. She’s very emotionally immature, so I guess this shouldn’t be entirely unexpected. She used to do things like this to her boyfriends: do something wrong, turn it around on them, and then pout until they “proved their love.”
I’m just livid.