Post # 1
Just found out today that my Maid/Matron of Honor is pregnant!! Her due date is two weeks after my April 6th wedding (yikes!). I am beyond excited for her! So any of I have any suggestions for dress ordring?? All of the bridesmaarenas I are going out dress shopping next week and I was just trying to plan ahead!!!
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I am in a wedding at 33 weeks and we ordered a dress by Bari Jay that specifically comes with a maternity option. You either need to do that or you need to choose a color and fabric and designer and let her get a different dress than the rest of the bridal party. The salons will know how much bigger to order a regular dress that will accommodate (i.e. has an umpire waist and flowing fabric from there) or you jsut order according to measurements and a maternity chart if it’s a maternity dress.
Post # 4
I agree with what @mrsSonthebeach: said, but be aware that if your wedding is 2 weeks before her due date, there is a chance she could have the baby early! Have you had a frank discussion with her to see if she is comfortable still being in your wedding that close to her due date?
One of my Bridesmaid or Best Man gave birth to her son 4 weeks before my wedding. It was a bit of a guess as far as size of her dress because she wasn’t sure how her body would react postpartum, but it worked out beautifully!
Post # 5
How does she feel about staying a bridesmaid? In the last month it’s really uncomfortable, you can’t stand for long periods of time, and of course she could go into labor early or just have complications. I think it would be better if she stood down as Maid/Matron of Honor and came as a guest instead. Or if she stays, be prepared that she might drop out at the last minute. Sorry I’m just trying to be realistic here. Assuming she is at the wedding, you can still include her in some of the photos.
Post # 6
OP, I would give her option of opting out. But if she agrees to do it, then look into maternity options. But good bets–and this is purely based on how my own pregnancy body and fashion has bee shaping up–include dresses that have higher empire waists (preferably elastic) so that the dress emphasizes the smallest part of the torso. A wider strap helps since most women gain a lot of cup sizes and might need a bra with larger straps. In general, it’ll probably safer to go with something that isn’t so tailored because a lady’s pregnancy shape changes constantly–things that can accomodate that are better (flowy skirts that come away from the body, etc.) And, unless she’s a masochist AND one of the lucky ones who’s feet don’t swell to the size of elephants’, I’d allow her to wear flats 🙂
Post # 7
This isn’t dress related, but make sure to provide her with a chair during the ceremony! 🙂
Post # 8
Every pregnancy is different so as long as you are prepared to be flexible then everything should be fine. I had no issue with any of my pregnancies with standing or wearing high heels (In fact, I was driving a tractor around the field on my farm the day before having my youngest! lol).
Since the wedding is close to her due date, I would also suggest something like an empire waisted dress…either pre or post baby it should work fine. Just remember that this is out of everyone’s control…she could have the baby before, after (or even during the wedding!) so being ready for anything will definitely be a factor! As well, since she is your Maid/Matron of Honor I would suggest that you ask your other BMs to help her out a fair bit with planning any pre wedding events.
Post # 9
@Regina Phalange: +1! I fainted several times in the last couple weeks of my pregnancy from overdoing it/standing too long. Add in the stress of a wedding day, and the lack of eating/water drinking that comes with it, and she’ll need to sit!
Anything can happen, so there is definitely a chance that she’ll be out of commission on your wedding date. Plus, if she has to travel at all, that could be restricted by her doctor.
Post # 10
She still wants to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. She joke around about holding in her contractions during the ceremony if she has to!!! Obviously that isn’t possible! She was actually afraid I would kick her out of the wedding!! I told her only if she wanted to be! This is her second child so at least she knows a little of what to expect..although every one is different!! I realize there is a chance that she won’t be there and that kinda sucks! I have known her since I was 5 years old and never imagined having my weddiNg without her there! Also her daughter (my godchild) is the flower girl so I am also prepared for her not to be there as well 🙁 I guesswill keep my fingers crossed until April 7th!!
Post # 11
Yikes! I had a relative that was Maid/Matron of Honor of her friend’s wedding when she was very pregnant. I don’t think she was due in two weeks though, maybe like a month. Everyone was worried about her all day, but she was fine! No one wanted her to fall of course! I don’t really know what extra prep they did but she had a maternity dress on.
Post # 12
One of my girls is going to be 8 mths preggars (she didn’t want to opt out either, but I did give her the option), so we got the dress 2 sizes too big with extra length, so that they can always pull it up over her bump (if that makes sense) or worst case build side panels. So far we are like 1.75 mths out and the dress is HUGE on her…she’s 6mths pregnant and still wears a smaller size than me! 🙂 But better safe than sorry.
Post # 13
alfred angelo is another designer with lots of maternity dresses.
Post # 14
i would get her a different dress from the BM;s i agree with the empire waist, or possibly a maternity dress however that all depends on her. i’m not sure how it works in the US but over here maternity dresses are size on the womans usual size but the shop will help you with this. the other option although it might sound a little odd is to get her a dress that is to long for her, a floaty material would be best. this will allow the dress to lift with her bump at the front, and then have the back altered so that it lines up with the front of the dress, do this as close to the wedding as possible and it should fit like a dream. oh and take into consideration her breasts may get bigger too., an alterneck may be the way to go so it can be lifted accordingly.
Post # 15
Thank you all for all the tips!! Luckily I am pretty laid back and flexible! While it will stink if my best friend is not at the wedding, I am super excited to be an auntie again and as long as everyone is happy and healthy it’s a good day in my book!! It will all make for a good story one way or another 😉
Post # 16
My sister is in her best friends wedding on September 15th and is due the day after (really yikes!). She ordered the dress 2 sizes larger then her normal size, and has her mother in law available to alter the dress is she has the baby early. Only a month to go and it still fits with room, which is good!