(Closed) my MOH just told be the shoes I like are hideous!? (photo)

posted 9 years ago in Shoes
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

Find a cheaper pair and make her wear them..lol.  Now to be serious, who cares what she has to say?  If you think they are perfect then go for it.  Did she tell you your dress was hideous too?  Your jewelry? Hair style?  Seems like shes an extremely critical person.  I would just not take her opinion or any thought about YOUR wedding personally.

I don’t like them for myself.  But that’s because I don’t like flats or bows.  If she’s not girly she sure won’t like bows or glitter.

Also, it’s not “just shoes”.  I lovee shoes.  I have over 100 pairs. I dont care how long my dress is.  They will be fab.  Yours should be too.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t think they are hideous. They aren’t my style though. My Maid/Matron of Honor is always honest with me. She will let me know if something is terrible. I’m glad to have her as a friend. As long as you love them, that’s all that matters.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t think they are hideous but I personally wouldn’t wear them. She could have been a little nicer about it.

Post # 7
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6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Her word choice and tone were unfortunate. She could have been honest without being mean.

I ask for and get a lot of opinions about my wedding details but at the end of the day I believe we all must do what gives us glee. You seem to love these shoes, wear them!!

Post # 8
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6571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

People have different taste, and super glittery just isn’t everybody’s. It’s mine though, I love them!

Are they for you or them? B/c if they’re your shoes, it really doesn’t matter what she thinks.

Post # 9
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911 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldnt share your wedding detials with her anymore. I think its great that shes honest with you, but you might have another friend who would be more excited about hearing wedding stuff!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I love those miu miu shoes! I would certainly wear those shoes to wedding dinners even though I’m not the bride but I also know some friends would not like them. Miu miu’s designs are very feminine and girly and not everyone would agree with that aesthetic. However, your friend was kind of tactless in expressing her opinion. I’m sure there would be others who would appreciate those lovely shoes though!

 

 

Post # 12
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223 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Ugh. I have a friend who does this ALL.THE.TIME. when ever we talk about something wedding related it’s : “well, I would never do that”, or “that’s not MY taste, but to each their own”. ARG! SOOOO glad I didn’t ask her to be a bridesmaid!!

Also -my sister put up a big stink because I wanted to wear black Nina shoes with a ruffle on them. NOT.YOUR.WEDDING!

Those shoes are really cute, and I think you should wear them! Who cares what she thinks? It’s not her wedding!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

The shoes are great!

It’s sad that your Maid/Matron of Honor picked such unfortunate words. When you really like something you want someone to be excited with you. But if they can’t do that they shouldn’t shoot it down.

My Future Mother-In-Law is doing this for about everything, it makes it very difficult to talk to her about wedding stuff. But since this is your Maid/Matron of Honor and you two probably have a close relationship, maybe tell her that you don’t need her to say that everything’s perfect (because you understand its not her style) but to be happy that you like it and not be negative about it.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think they are a bit gag worthy myself.  Your Maid/Matron of Honor is honest.  You can’t be mad at her for being honest.  What matters is if you like them, not what anyone else thinks.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think either of you did anything wrong. If your styles are different (which clearly they are) you almost certainly never find a pair you both like. I don’t get how her basically saying whatever you want gets you so upset. She’s being honest, she hates the shoes and to be frank so do I. But she also said go ahead if you love them, wear them. She also pretty much said wahtever you want me to wear I’ll wear… don’t get so upset your Maid/Matron of Honor isn’t adoring your shoes.

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