Post # 1
hmmm post getting eaten
anyway I was online chatting to my Maid/Matron of Honor and I sent her a link to some miu miu shoes and said i really wanted them but they are very expensive so I plan to either make my own or find something similar,
she responded by saying
I think they are hideous personally, but if you like them thats all that matters, lol.
they are princess shoes! (trying to make light of her response) to which she said
Yeah I think there are other shoes out there that would qualify as princess shoes that arent hideous…. Your serious arnt you?
to which I replied:
yes! miu miu rocks
the conversation went on and she said she hoped i didnt want her to wear them, I said no, and that i wanted her to wear ballet flats, probably plain ones.
we talked about this for a minute and I suggested a couple and she said:
Its just shoes… and I wouldnt get so stressed about shoes honestly… if we are wearing long dresses then our shoes are irrelevant..
arrrghhh I mean seriously! I get she is not into girly things and that she is only wearing a dress because i have asked her to for the wedding but I left the converstation feeling really p’d off, I keep feeling like she is rolling her eyes at me every time I have a concern about all thes “irrelevent issues” I KNOW that my shoes wont make or break the wedding day, but I am ENJOYING making sure that i have all the special details.
Post # 3
heres me trying to post the shoes again, they keep getting eaten, yes i know they are OTT but that is kind of the point I want a little bling peeping out from beneath my dress
Post # 4
Find a cheaper pair and make her wear them..lol. Now to be serious, who cares what she has to say? If you think they are perfect then go for it. Did she tell you your dress was hideous too? Your jewelry? Hair style? Seems like shes an extremely critical person. I would just not take her opinion or any thought about YOUR wedding personally.
I don’t like them for myself. But that’s because I don’t like flats or bows. If she’s not girly she sure won’t like bows or glitter.
Also, it’s not “just shoes”. I lovee shoes. I have over 100 pairs. I dont care how long my dress is. They will be fab. Yours should be too.
Post # 5
I don’t think they are hideous. They aren’t my style though. My Maid/Matron of Honor is always honest with me. She will let me know if something is terrible. I’m glad to have her as a friend. As long as you love them, that’s all that matters.
Post # 6
I don’t think they are hideous but I personally wouldn’t wear them. She could have been a little nicer about it.
Post # 7
Her word choice and tone were unfortunate. She could have been honest without being mean.
I ask for and get a lot of opinions about my wedding details but at the end of the day I believe we all must do what gives us glee. You seem to love these shoes, wear them!!
Post # 8
People have different taste, and super glittery just isn’t everybody’s. It’s mine though, I love them!
Are they for you or them? B/c if they’re your shoes, it really doesn’t matter what she thinks.
Post # 9
I wouldnt share your wedding detials with her anymore. I think its great that shes honest with you, but you might have another friend who would be more excited about hearing wedding stuff!
Post # 10
They are for me, i originally wanted ruby slippers like dorothy but they wont go with a burgundy dress. 🙂
Post # 11
I love those miu miu shoes! I would certainly wear those shoes to wedding dinners even though I’m not the bride but I also know some friends would not like them. Miu miu’s designs are very feminine and girly and not everyone would agree with that aesthetic. However, your friend was kind of tactless in expressing her opinion. I’m sure there would be others who would appreciate those lovely shoes though!
Post # 12
Ugh. I have a friend who does this ALL.THE.TIME. when ever we talk about something wedding related it’s : “well, I would never do that”, or “that’s not MY taste, but to each their own”. ARG! SOOOO glad I didn’t ask her to be a bridesmaid!!
Also -my sister put up a big stink because I wanted to wear black Nina shoes with a ruffle on them. NOT.YOUR.WEDDING!
Those shoes are really cute, and I think you should wear them! Who cares what she thinks? It’s not her wedding!
Post # 13
The shoes are great!
It’s sad that your Maid/Matron of Honor picked such unfortunate words. When you really like something you want someone to be excited with you. But if they can’t do that they shouldn’t shoot it down.
My Future Mother-In-Law is doing this for about everything, it makes it very difficult to talk to her about wedding stuff. But since this is your Maid/Matron of Honor and you two probably have a close relationship, maybe tell her that you don’t need her to say that everything’s perfect (because you understand its not her style) but to be happy that you like it and not be negative about it.
Post # 14
I think they are a bit gag worthy myself. Your Maid/Matron of Honor is honest. You can’t be mad at her for being honest. What matters is if you like them, not what anyone else thinks.
Post # 15
I don’t think either of you did anything wrong. If your styles are different (which clearly they are) you almost certainly never find a pair you both like. I don’t get how her basically saying whatever you want gets you so upset. She’s being honest, she hates the shoes and to be frank so do I. But she also said go ahead if you love them, wear them. She also pretty much said wahtever you want me to wear I’ll wear… don’t get so upset your Maid/Matron of Honor isn’t adoring your shoes.