(Closed) My MOH made me feel guilty….Sorry this is a long one!!

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

How about having co-maids of honor?  I am doing that.  I couldn’t possibly choose between my two best girlfriends.  They were fine with it.  I don’t think you should worry too much about hurting people’s feelings.  Just go with what you want!

Post # 4
2385 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I’d pick them both.

Post # 5
1830 posts
Buzzing bee

I have a bunch of sisters so I said no Maid/Matron of Honor.  Then on the wedding day I ended up having one because one of them just went above and beyond and really took charge of everything.

Post # 6
74 posts
Worker bee

It’s your day, and you need to do what’s right for you.

It frustrates me that people think they “deserve” to be in someones else’s wedding (even if they are family!) 

At this point since you’ve already made her the MoH, I think the best you could do is have co maids of honor like the other girls mentioned. There’s nothing wrong with having more than one person in your life that is important enough to have that title ๐Ÿ™‚


Post # 7
3340 posts
Sugar bee

I’d definitely do TWO MOHs.  She can guilt you all she wants into being the Maid/Matron of Honor, but you can still choose your cousin to stand next to you at the altar!

Post # 8
45 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

Definitely do two MOH’s! It’s not fair for you to feel in anyway uncomfortable with the choice of your step-sister instead of cousin, make them both share the title & everyone’s happy!

Post # 9
304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We’re not having a best man or maid of honor for this exact reason, it’s too tricky with feelings and trying to decide who should be doing what and where and all that.

Post # 10
1581 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

This happened to me with my BFF.  We have a mutual friend who unfortunately is very emotional to the your worried about her safety so my friend decided to make her the Maid/Matron of Honor inorder to not upset our friend.  I completely understood the situtation and I still went above and beyond for my friend like I would have if I was Maid/Matron of Honor. So I’m sure your cousin will do the same.

If you want to do something special for her have her read a poem, versus.  Or ask her to give a toast at the rehearsal dinner.


Post # 11
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with everyone, have two! I have two because I have 2 sisters and would not be able to choose. We originally drew out of a hat so all three would be someones Maid/Matron of Honor, but I couldn’ have one without the other.

I am having one stand next to me, and the other sign my marriage license so they both get to do something special.

Post # 12
18 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

Definitely have two MOH! I’ve seen it done before. Hopefully the current Maid/Matron of Honor and your new Maid/Matron of Honor (cousin) will get along well and then you’ll have double the help. This could work out very nicely!

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