(Closed) my mom

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@jen 42713:  sounds like there might be something else going on. has she talked to her doctor about it, or seen a therapist?

Post # 4
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808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If she was an actualy hoarder, I don’t think she would want to get rid of the stuff at all.  Help to take it off her hands.  If she gives you something- take it home and throw it out!  Our mom has just recently started giving my sister and I things from our childhood (report cards from the 4th grade, art projects from Elementary school) she said she wanted us to be the ones to decide if we threw them out.  My mom has a 2 car garage that she can’t park in because it is full of crates of stuff.  Ugghhh.  She even has bottles of lotion and perfume from when my sister and I were in high school (18 and 14 years ago.  Ugghhh!)

Post # 6
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1606 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@jen 42713:  I have a grandmother that acts like this. We do the same things – just throw the items out when we get home. I don’t think it is a hoarding sensibility but more-so a gifting addiction. It’s how she shows her love and feels useful in situations.

I actually know which stack of tubs in the basement has all my birthday gifts in it for the next ten years (or more). Yes it’s weird, but as long as you and your sisters can talk her out of the weirder things – I would let it go. After the wedding is over does it seem like it will be that big of a problem anymore? Just go back to throwing out the things you don’t want.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh man. My ex’s mom was like this. She shopped and hoarded because she had an unhappy marriage. It’s tough to watch.

Are you close to her? Why not suggest that you help her clean out the house one weekend (or a couple of weekends, if it’s that bad)? Clear all of that junk out with her.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@jen 42713:  Need to do it WITH her, not just do it. If your dad/sister want to clean they need to arrange it with your mom and not just go in and start throwing out what they consider garbage. It can be a loss of control that way.

But I agree it will seem like less of a problem later and if you’re really concerned have your Dad talk to her the Dr about her 🙂

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