- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
So I know I have a while to go, as I just got engaged on Christmas… but this is already bugging me 🙁
My mom and I aren’t extremely close- she was never really “in” my life due to some problems she’s had- but she has been sober for almost 4 years now. She also lives about 6-7 hours away. I know that all has a lot to due with the fact that she just doesn’t seem to give a sh*t that I’m engaged.
She’s met my now Fiance, and she LOVED him. My whole family does. After it happened- I knew it was the right thing to call her and let her know that he proposed. I called, and she just rambled about a voicemail she had left me saying “Merry Christmas” after I called her and she didnt answer (that’s a whoooole other story.)
She seemed excited at first saying things like “omg. omg omg im going to cry!” and things like that. I couldn’t stay on the phone long, since he had proposed in front of my whole family- so I said my goodbyes, and she said she was happy for me and to keep her in the loop. okay…
so pictures are taken, congrats are given. my aunt (we were at my dad’s family’s) gives us a champagne toast- the whole 9 yards. I send my mother pictures of the ring and she says nothing. The next day she just asks if we had a date set (we are toying with fall 2013) and I tell her our plans, and ask if she had gotten the pictures I sent her, or saw them on FB… since my phone was low on battery.
Nothing since. She hasn’t said a word to me, or called me, sent a card, a text. Nothing. Oh well.
The sucky thing though, is that if I don’t invite her- or include her in the wedding I’m going to hear about it for the rest of my life. It’s just easier to invite her and just not have her name on the invite, or have her have any part of the MOB status. Especially since she wasn’t really there for me as a mother. My aunt was more a mother to me.
Bleh- sorry just venting!