Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
Couldn’t decide if this was more of an “Emotional” or “Wellness” topic, but oh well.
Last night I had the best dinner ever with a friend I hadn’t seen in years. It was fabulous. Right before that, though, my mom called and texted saying she had “something to tell me” which made me think Cancer, Divorce, or (incredibly unlikely, but my brain is crazy) someone was in jail. I’m glad I was able to still go to dinner and enjoy that, even though I was freaking out a little.
After dinner, I met my family, and my mom tells me she found out she has Breast Cancer. I am just so shocked, scared, and worried for her. I know cancer is becoming more and more common, so it was kind of an anomoly that my family hadn’t been effected by any, really. It’s really taking a toll on me right now as I try to digest the news, and I’m not sure what to do, other than try to be positive for her. She seems to be pretty okay, said the worst part was telling people, but they have a plan and her doctors sound pretty great. I just know it’s going to be rough, even in the best case scenario she’s going to go through a lot and have pain and feel sick for awhile.
She’s just such an amazing person, and has always been my rock, so I want to be strong for her and be there when she needs me. Any advice or words of encouragement? I sure could use them today!
Post # 3
My mother is a breast cancer survivor! She has been cancer free for 5 years. She’s a very positive person with a great attitude and I think that’s made all the difference.
My heart goes out to you and your family.
Post # 4
I am so sorry to hear about your mothers illness 🙁
My mother is a BC survivor, so I understand what you are feeling. Just show her you support her, and let her have her moments. My mother cried a lot and so did I. You do have to be strong sometimes, but this is a hard thing to go through – you are allowed to react.
I will admit some times were harder than others. But the thing that REALLY helped us was the amazing support system the hospital and Cancer centers made available. Knowing that (sadly) a lot of people are going through this (it is not something doctors don;t know how to treat) made us feel more comfortable. Stay positive, keep family close, don’t be afraid to ask people for help or be ashamed. Pray if that is something you and your family believe in/practice and know that everyone goes through these struggles in life and always comes out stronger. xox
Post # 5
So sorry to hear. My grandmom is a breast cancer survivor. I was really young at the time to understand what was going on, but she told me I was freaked out seeing her wear wigs and such. I wish your mother well wishes. Your family and especially your mother will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Post # 6
I am so sorry to hear about your mom’s illness, thoughts and prayers for your mom and yourself, stay strong for her, she’s going to need it to fight this disease.
Post # 7
My aunt is a survivor as well, for over a decade now 🙂 We used to get together when she was feeling up to it and go out to lunch as a family. Everyone would wear a funky hat or wacky wig… in fact my brother wore a long, blonde, wavy Rapunzel-like wig! Some of my fondest memories of that time were of all of us sitting at Applebee’s wearing our crazy head pieces. She wasn’t the only person with a bandana or wig or hat, and it was just a way for all of us to laugh at the funny things the best we could. It was a wonderful bonding experience, and a really fun way for all of us to show our love and support.
To this day, she still makes fun of my brother for that ridiculous wig!
Post # 8
My mother is also a breast cancer survivor! I didn’t worry so much when she was diagnosed because it was caught on time and mostly because she seems so strong and confident. I wanted to be her rock if she needed me. She did so well and I admire that woman so much.
I am sorry that your mom has breast cancer. One thing my mom’s doctor told us is that if you are going to get cancer, pray that it is breast cancer. It sounds weird but I assume he meant that it is the most treatable. I know that that is not always the case but I hope it helps.
You know, I would not be surprised if I was ever diagnosed with breast cancer. I know that I am no exception to the rule. I pray that your mom goes through this with flying colors.
Blessings to all your family!
Post # 9
@DaneLady: That is so sweet and cute!
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
Thanks ladies. I know it isn’t the worst news to hear, but it is so scary! I’m comforted by all the survival stories I keep hearing, though.
@DaneLady: I’ll definitely have to remember to get some crazy wigs and hats and things, when the time comes, that is a great story.
Post # 11
My mom had a single mastectomy October of 2010!
It’s a long road, and actually, the radiation and after-effects were more of a problem than her surgery.
Just make sure to make her feel loved. It’s also a great idea to get her connected with other survivors/patients. I’ve been told that even with all the love and attention family/friends can give, there’s still another level that you can’t connect on unless you have experienced cancer for yourself.
I’m sorry you both have to go through this.
Post # 12
I’m so sorry to hear this. Sending good vibes to your mom!