Post # 1
My mom has had medical issues for a while. She just found out yesterday that she most likely (they’re almost 100 percent positive) has uterine cancer and it may have already spread.
I just moved 3 hours away from home, so I’m finding it very difficult because I’m not there with her. I have been looking for a jteaching ob with no luck and have been thinking of just putting it off and going home to be with my mom for a while. She is having surgery at the beginning of next week and I just feel that I need to be with her. But I feel guilty leaving my husband and putting off finding a job for a couple weeks.
I just don’t know how to deal with this. I’m just so scared. My mom is seriously my best friend. I felt this urgency to get married and I kept having these panicky feelings that someone was going to pass away before the wedding. I kept pushing it away and everyone was fine. I’ve only been married for a couple months though, and now this. I can’t face the fact that I might lose her. I can’t help but think of how it’s possible that she’ll never meet my children, etc.
I really don’t know why I’m posting this except everytime I try to talk about it with someone, I end up breaking into uncontrollable tears to where I can’t say anything. And I don’t know what to say to mom. We’ve talked a lot then. She always breaks down and cries and I’m speechless. I have no idea what to say.
Post # 3
When do they test to know if it has spread? good thoughts that the cancer has not spread!
If it has spread, is chemo/radiation an option? My mom had stage 4 breast cancer and it had spread some but she is 5 years in remission. I hope you have the same results! sending good vibes
Post # 4
Sending hugs and prayers to you and your family. I hope you get the positive news you are looking for.
Post # 5
Just wanted to let you know my thoughts are with you. I am dealing with something similar right now and it takes a toll on your mind.
Post # 6
Speaking as someone who works in the oncology field caring for many, many cancer patients and someone who has lost someone to cancer..
It is okay to absolutely break down!! It’s so much better to deal with it head on than to pretend like everything is okay! You definitely need to be there for your mom even if you are just listening to her cry on the phone, she knows that you are listening and that you care! Don’t aviod talking to her because you’re afraid you might cry in front of her. Just because you cry doesn’t mean you’re weak or that you’re burdening her, it means you care!!
Cancer is a life changing experience and it changes everyone differently. Are there going to be hard times? Yes! Are you both going to have bad days? Yes!! But the one thing you have to hold on to in HOPE! Stay positive! Cancer is NOT a death sentence! It’s absolutely terrifying but modern medicine has come so far!!
As far as putting your job search on hold, I know that’s financially difficult.. But the follow up appointment after surgery when you are informed of all the results is normally the most important and when she will need the most support.
You just have to decide now that you’re both going to be strong and that you’ll both do whatever it takes to fight!
Prayers are with you and your family!!!
Post # 7
My heart is with you… my family has gone through something similar and it is an emotinal rollercoaster. Just wanted you to know you are not alone.
Post # 8
Sending you good thoughts! My mom was dianosed with breast cancer 2 years ago, and she’s in remission now. There’s hope, I promise you. Try to stay positive, and lean on your friends and your husband for support. Best wishes to you!