- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
So the relationshiop between my mom and I has been a bit strained lately, I posted about this before, but basically she got very offended that I didn’t choose the dress she liked and has been giving me a hard time since. I’m not sure if this is “payback” from her or if she really thinks that it’s not a big deal.
A few months ago she mentioned to me that she won’t be wearing a traditional MOB dress because she doesn’t want to look matronly, and I said that’s ok, she can pick the style as long as it’s not a shade of white.
So now she’s telling me that she’s getting a seamstress to custom make her dress and has decided on an ivory lace dress! I asked her why whe chose ivory when my only request was for her not to wear a shade of white, and she said that she will be tanned for my wedding and thinks ivory will look best against her skintone, and don’t I want her to be at her best for my wedding? She says that she doesn’t see what the big deal is and that nobody will mystake her for the bride.
Now I don’t think that anyone would mystake her for me, but I think it’s in bad taste to wear ivory or white to someone’s wedding and I would never do that myself. I’m also upset that she is ignoring my only request, and that from all the colors out there she could only pick ivory.
She says that the dress she’s getting made will most likely be short because long dresses make her look matronly, and I guess that’s a bit better, but I’m also concerned with the lenght she might pick, since all her short dresses are well above the knee and that is the style she usually goes for. While she has an amazing figure and looks awesome in shorter dresses I don’t think that’s very appropriate for a MOB dress. Should I mention/ask any specifics about lenght or is it not my place? I want to make sure that my mom looks classy and like a mom should, and not give fuel for gossip to my gossipy family.
I was very upset yesterday and had a thought to call my mom and put my foot down about the ivory dress, but now that I calmed down a bit I’m thinking that I should just let it go and let her wear whatever she feels prettiest in. What do you think I should do? Also should I mention anything about the lenght or trust her judgement? I don’t want to make our relationship any worse at this point 🙁