Post # 1
Over the weekend my FIL’s threw us an engagement party at their house. Everything was great! Except my mom was an hour late! She was also driving my teenage sister and my grandparents to their house (about a half hour away) Although some of my family were also late because of traffic, it was only by 20 minutes and they called to let me know. I feel that an hour is way too late to show up to a function, especially your daughters engagement party. She has also been late to a couple of my dress appts. When my brother got married she was late every step of the way and I know it caused stress for my sister in law. We’ve already told her that our ceremony will only be 20-25 minutes and if there is a threat of rain the venue will start us a little early to beat the rain. She is offended easily and her first instict would be to blame other people for her lateness. I’m not sure how to approach her on this! Could use your advice bees! Thanks!!
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
Goodness! That is a shame. i’m sorry bee. I would say to reiterate to her that it is very important to you that she be on time. Will she not be with you getting ready? If she is arriving with you then she can’t be late. Good luck!
Post # 3
my mum is regularly late. It was always a nightmare if she was dropping any of us at a train station etc as she’d never be ready to leave in time. We all just started telling her an earlier time than it was so she’d actually make it on time.
Post # 4
With people like that I always allow a cushion of ~45 minutes. If we’re catching a movie at 2:15 I ask to meet at 1:30. You could ask her to be there well before the ceremony starts for pictures or getting ready or whatever.
Post # 5
I agree with PP. My family is always late, so when I really need for them to be on time to something, I give them an earlier start time. That way when they inevitably show up “late”, they are right on time or a bit early.
Post # 6
Cushion her times for when she needs to be ready and at the venue. Tell her point blank: Mom, “this wedding starts on time with or without you:, and mean it! Do not hold your guests hostage because she wants to be an hour late for no emergency type of reason..
Post # 7
Thanks for the advice! I’m assuming she will want her hair done with us, but I don’t know if she will be with us the whole time. If she is late we will not be waiting. We have a certain time frame at the venue and I’m not sacrificing that because she didn’t account for “time to go through town” or “grandparents take too long to get in the car”. She and I don’t have the best relationship and a lot of our conversations end in a yelling match. So I’m hoping it doesn’t come down to that!