- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
My mom has never been all that, cooperative, when it comes to my wedding. She originally offered to help pay for some things, and I ended up buying them myself. She’s been berating me about not having an engagement ring for the last 6 months and complaining almost constantly about my choice in men. She talks about his money issues, which aren’t really issues, just unforseen things, like truck repairs, family issues etc. Yeah, it’s all been super fun.
FH has been browsing the web and looking for rings within a more reasonable budget for now with plans to upgrade later, when things are more stable and he’s out of college. He’s been asking my mom for help, sending her pictures, asking about my ring size, what all kinds of styles I might like, etc. First of all, she ruined the surprise by even telling me this because I thought FH was just getting me a late birthday present or something else and secondly she’s been putting down every suggestion because it’s not a diamond, it’s a colored stone, and therefore just looks weird.
While I’m kind of glad my FH thought about asking my mom for help, I’m also pretty upset about it, because she hasn’t let it go since. The simple fact of the matter is that FH doesn’t have $1000 or more to spend on a ring right now and my thought is that my mom should be happy he’s not going into debt to buy me a ring.
I’ve tried explaining that I’m an adult, I don’t live at home and this is my engagement ring, not hers. I’ve also told her that it hurts my feelings that she doesn’t really seem to care about any of my wedding plans.
I’m just angry and hurt right now and I know FH is upset about it too and I needed to get it off my chest.